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Please, need some help. Don't know how to act with my friends!
November 2, 2001
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Hi,
I'm 26 and I have a terrible problem with my friends. I changed my job and I met there some nice people, and we became friends. I had a crash on one boy (not that I'm in love with him, I'm not homosexual), and I always thought I would like to be like him (he has always treated me like good friends and so.)

Then he and another worker (a girl who I considered one of my best friends) began to have a sexual relationship. I was the only one who has discovered this relationship in the job, and I felt kind of implicated in it... and some kind of jealous... and other feelings I don't know how to explain. Now, I don't know how to act with them: they always tell me to go with them (like before their relationship), but I feel like "Three's a crowd". I've talked with them about this, but they keep on telling me I don't annoy them...
But now I've started to send them a lot of messages to their cellular phones (talking about how much I annoy them) and I always feel guilty of doing so, but can't stop doing it. Now, the relationship between us three is like I do always something bad (like sending a message, or crying in front of them...) and then I ask forgiveness... They forgive me, and then is the same again. I don't know how to act to stop this circle...
Please, if someone can answer me, I would be very grateful.

November 3, 2001
5:57 am
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Well, maybe "to have a crash" is not the best word I could have used (I'm not an English speaker and sometimes I don't know how to express things in English). My relationship with this guy is like we're very good frieds and we have had a good connection since we first met (like we have knew each other always); and it's the same with the girl... When they invite me to go with them, it's not in a sexual way... I mean, they tell me to go eat together (like we did before their relationship), but I can't help feeling guilty of not letting them enough space to develop their relationship.
Well, thanx for answering me, Blondie.

November 4, 2001
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Can I thank you now??? I knew what I have to do, but maybe I needed someone to tell me to... I will try to not hang out with them as much as the other days (well, yesterday I went to cinema alone, without them :P)

But I think it will be hard on monday, when I come back to work, because me and him always had lunch together and she will be come along... Would you ask for forgiveness and tell them I will try to stop bothering them, or would you just change your attittude without saying anything?
Thanx a lot, Bram

November 5, 2001
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Thanx for your counseling... I'll try it today. Tell you later (after work) how it went!

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