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9:40 pm
September 30, 2010
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I am having such a hard time trusting I am about to call it quits with my 2 year relationship. Cuz I cannot handle a relationship this way. He hasn't done anything except for plays with himself and goes online and looks at other woman. Found out today that he got flowers for his banker and title officer for closing his house loan but he has NEVER bought me flowers. WHat should I do? LEAVE OR STAY? I am so confused. I can't trust anyone! I have been cheated on so many times that I can't let go of the fact that it could happen again! It is destroying me!
12:50 am
September 29, 2010
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Don't let it destroy you any longer. If you feel this badly with this relationship as you have with past ones, something inside of you is screaming for a change. You need to take a break and look deeper into yourself and find out why you are attracted to those who hurt and betray you. Have you always felt distrust in all of your relationships? If so, then I suggest walking away from this relationship and getting in touch with yourself, in other words - clean the cobwebs from your closet. Seek some counseling. Aside from that, just take a deep look back to the past and find out what is causing you such pain.
10:51 pm
September 30, 2010
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T- What exactly is it that is keeping you with this guy. It sounds as though he has violated all of the fundamental rules of a relationship. This is probably so hurtful to you that along the way he has even taken your self-esteem. Please take it back, leave. If he has cheated on you "So many times" he will do it again. You deserve to be appreciated and cared for, he doesn't sound like he is doing such a good job. You have the power to say - hey, I am better than the way you are treating me, I am worth more, I won't settle for this anymore and say goodbye - the whole time, you'll be saying hello to a new future where you'll have to begin a journey of healthy relationships starting with taking care of yourself. Good Luck
4:10 pm
September 30, 2010
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he hasn't cheated on me. all my past boyfriends have.
10:50 pm
September 30, 2010
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thanks for clearing that up. if he hasn't cheated on you, what are your hesitations with him-just him? try to keep your past relationships separate for one sec. and ask what are your issues with just him. If it is all about the past then maybe he can help you through it with a good counselor. Good luck
10:58 pm
September 30, 2010
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If you don't really trust him, then the relationship isn't going to work out. People who love each other have strong trust that bind together forever. I'm glad that I've listened to my own "gut" that I don't trust my ex-boyfriend and later found out that he had cheated me. If your body is filled with tension thinking about him or close to him, then something is telling you not right. Don't let your "untrusted" relationship destroyed you.
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