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December 11, 2000
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I have been married for 12 years. I love my husband dearly. Of course, we have had our ups and downs like any marriage. He cheated on me the first first few years of our marriage but we worked it out. It took several years to "heal" from that situation. Recently he told me he feels guilty for the times he was unfaithful and feels that he tries to run my life too much. He took a good look and listen to the way speaks to me. He realized that he was too controlling in my life and apologized for not letting me do things my way. He said this was weighing heavy in is mind for a couple of months. I assured him I love him and I am happy. I don't feel that he is controlling. He is thinking about moving out and being on his own for awhile. There isn't another woman. I already asked him. He says he loves me very much but he needs to stop feeling the way he does (guilty)and thinks that being by himself for awhile will help. I can't stop crying. I don't know what to do.

December 11, 2000
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I am so sorry for your pain. That would be hard to have to face. I wish there was something that I could do to help you. Is he going to be close by and will you know where he is going? I wish there was someway to give you my e-mail address. I will if you want or need it. I hope you have prayed about what to do. I know that would help. I am also going through a hard time, and I'm kind of down right now too. It really does help to tell things to others. Does your husband have a brother that you could talk to and ask him to have a talk with your husband and try to tell him that you want him to stay? Sometimes it's easier to hear it from someone not so close. I hope that makes a little bit of sense and helps a little bit. Please keep me posted. I'd really like to help if I can. I'll continue to check here and I also have been checking and telling a little about me in the one called "scared to be alone". Anyway, I hope you will let me know how things are going for you.

December 11, 2000
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If you are involved in a church, I would seek pastorial counseling, if not ask you husband to go to marriage counseling, and try that, if not set him free, give him the space he thinks he needs, he will come back, it is hard, but we cannot force others to be where we want them to be.

December 11, 2000
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Thank you all for your encouraging words. Rc101, I wish I can give you my e-mail address as well. I think we can help each other out. At least provide some sort of support. I love my husband so much. We have two kids together and he loves them so much. I know we can work through this but the pain is unbearable. He's thinking about just getting his own apartment and he will visit us often. We have built a home together and it just won't be a home without him.

December 11, 2000
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I am very sorry for what you are going through I know it's hard but you might consider that having some time apart might help your relationship. I just took a big step two months ago to move away from my five year boyfried with whom I have two kids with. although it was a hard desion to make for the both of us, it has helped our relationship grow even stronger. sometimes you need that time apart to find out whats really important to you, to find yourself again and to reassure yourself that your love for eachother is just as strong now as it was when you fell in love. but one thing you might want to his talk with him about it the desion should be mutual. not every ones the same but I know for me moving away from my boyfriend has helped our relationship one hundred percent. know that if he truly loves you like he says he will come back and no matter where you two are he will always be there for you. good luck i hope every thing works out for the best and rember every ones relationship is different and should always do what you want if you don't like my advice then please with all sencerity you dont have to listen to it im just trying to help and i hope you know and understand that good-luck

December 11, 2000
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Thanks JNR. I'm beginning think you're right. I'll keep you all posted. If he really loves me and the children, I know he will come back.

December 12, 2000
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tweety, if you want my e-mail address, please let me know and I'll give it to you. I wish you luck.

December 12, 2000
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Tweety, do you by any chance have aol instant messenger of yahoo instant messenger? If so, please let me know if you want to. Good luck

December 12, 2000
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rc101, yes, I would like your e-mail address. Thanks.

December 12, 2000
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I have aol.

December 12, 2000
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Tweety - my e-mail address is [email protected]

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