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August 30, 2006
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I was doing what I do best. It was all good. Until I heard back from them yet again. They won't leave me alone. They are asking me to do something I cannot do. They will not stop.

I am not sorry about my decision. I told them I made up my mind.

August 30, 2006
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P&L, Please stay strong as this will all be for nothing. I believe in you!

August 30, 2006
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gg

You know, I want to tell u something. I think you are very kind, and someone I would be priviledged to know in real life, but that is not possible. So, anyone who is fortunate enough to cross your path is quite blessed. You are so caring.

Today was full of emotions. The innocent people who will be hurt just assured me that taking care of myself is taking care of them. It is rewarding to know I have such an outstanding team of people behind me. THey cannot protect me, but they give me strength by reminding me what life is all about. I normally have a very strong sense of who I am and have let that get away from me in this battle. Since M&S and others reminded me to stick to my values, and I made my decision, I don't care if I end up working at starbucks or Walmart with my doctorate. IT is better than not sleeping at night or signing something I was forced to sign.

It always comes down to signing something that I cannot sign. Some agreement that I cannot in good faith sign. I feel forced, pushed. I feel like a hostage. Who the heck ever heard of working conditions like this? Who gets a doctorate and becomes internationally known for THIS? THIS IS VERY WRONG! I won't sign anything! I said no to one of the top dogs here. I sort of realized that, and told him to come back when he is ready to talk to me like a professional. I also told them to leave me alone. My job description does not require me to do any of this.

I think they are using tactics to scare me...to make me think my life will continue to be miserable or that they could harm me professionally. Truth is, they could make me miserable, but it would be very difficult for them to fire me, although I don't put anything past them.

Many other places have expressed interest in me, even in this economy. Too bad I was so happy here before and wanted to stay here for personal reasons. It is sad. The worst part may be the unwanted press/attention, given my status in my field. But maybe I am just getting brainwashed by their threats...I think they have a lot more at stake than I do. They are going to great efforts to sweep this under the carpet for reasons I still don't fully know or want to know. It is scary.

Yes, I have legal assistance. They expected this today. I was more hopeful.

Pray for me, please.

August 31, 2006
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I am in distess! Please answer.

August 31, 2006
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Hi P&L,

I bet, even with all of this, you feel better about yourself - more in control, more like YOU? You are taking your strength, your dignity, your soul back...maybe a little bit at a time, but you are doing it. You can keep doing this.

zax

August 31, 2006
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yes, zax, but I am scared and disappointed. My core group is so kind at work, but get beyond that, and there is a meanness that is so foreign to me.

Not sure how much more I can take of this.

I was so happy to think I was getting my life back, and then I got the curve ball my legal people fully expected. Why, why, why are people like this? I don't get it. It is much easier to just be nice and get your work done. This is painful.

Thanks for writing to me, zax. Much apreciated. This has been so hard.

How are you?

Love, P&L

August 31, 2006
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P&L, first thanks for the lovely compliments. I do wish other people felt the same way.

Two positive things stood out: your core group support and possible other employment opportunities. Please stay strong, you can do this. You have to think about your future, you must have a life again!!! Please believe in yourself. You are intelligent and strong!!! Do what is right for you, YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

August 31, 2006
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P&L

I haven't been around for a while, but you stick to your moral guns. Don't let anyone change who you are, or make you feel like you have to do something totally against you. I am glad your core group is supportive of you. It is good for them to see you sticking up for yourself that way these other folks at work will have a harder time doing something like this to someone else.

But remember too, your peace of mind & mental health is most valuable. You have choices. You CAN go elsewhere. At some point you may have to make that decision is all this worth the fight? Some things we can fight, & fight, & fight, and will never change.

You said you have legal counsel ~ what do they say?

Above all ~ your health & sanity are worth so much more than anything else... what ever decisions and actions you decide to take, just make sure they are ones you will be proud of 20 yrs from now.

Take care,

Juanita

August 31, 2006
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(((P&L)))

I'm SO proud of you!!!!

Stay strong...we are with you.

Love,
Lolli

August 31, 2006
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My dear, sweet, wonderful aac friends-

Thank you for writing to me. Well, my counsel says they are yelling at me cuz they are afraid of my power. That they are scared. So, they can kiss my you know what...(oh, they did not say that, and neither did I, it is so unlike me!!!).

I feel stronger with my decision. I am not sorry, and yes, it is one I believe I will be able to live with 20 years from now...if I survive that long...I have at least that much time left in my career (I am young for where I am, and thus, I guess some think impressionable). I realized I have a much stronger sense self. I know what I stand for, even if it means suffering. Because I stood for certain things, it caused me to have weak boundaries, because these values collided. I had to be kind, yet ethical. Sometimes being ethical causes harm to innocent people, which feels unethical. However, ultimately, I cannot put the innocent people in a situation which is unethical. So, I know i made the right decision to come out with it. If it costs me my job, oh well.. I think they will be in big trouble, and they know it, which is why they are treating me like a hostage.

Okay, all that said, they probably can't fire me (it would be hard anyway), but they CAN make me miserable and sorta harass me...in which case, I have a backup legal plan...not to mention lots of places who do want me to come there. So, I now am trying to think rationally. I just didn't want to leave. I did a lot for this place, and I was treated like a queen for a long time, but when push comes to shove, everyone is out for himself, I sure found out. People can be really nasty and unprofessional.

I had it pretty good most of my life...must be why I have no coping skills when it comes to bad stuff. Can one be have no coping skills from coming from an abnormally funtional family? HAHA? No, it wasn't perfect, but wow, I really didn't know that for some people the behavior I am observing now is a way of life. How sad.

What a saga...it is almost funny now in a sick way. Maybe because I am resolved in my part and I have sort of let go. It is still taking up a great deal of time and I want it to go away, which it won't. There are things going on that need to be taken care of. Okay, I am not very happy today, but getting by.

Love, P&L

August 31, 2006
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((P&L))) Im so sorry I havent been around for a while. I am happy to hear that you have been sticking to your guns. YOu do not desirve to be in this mess. I am so proud of you sweetheart. I hope all of this gets resolved soon.

August 31, 2006
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So nice to see you, hunny! THanks for the post. Hope you are doing well. Hugs, P&L

August 31, 2006
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P&L, You are really sounding strong and look how many people believe in you on this site and they don't even know you. One day you will be able to look back and realize that it was all meant for a reason...you just don't know that yet!!! Take care my friend.

August 31, 2006
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P&L, You are really sounding strong and look how many people believe in you on this site and they don't even know you. One day you will be able to look back and realize that it was all meant for a reason...you just don't know that yet!!! Take care my friend.

August 31, 2006
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Thanks, gg, glad I sound stronger. I am not that happy, but better than before... sort of worried.

August 31, 2006
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To be honest, you are not going to be happy until this is over. When it is, you better celebrate for standing up for yourself and surviving!!! We will all celebrate with you! Maybe we can party at home at the same time. LL can provide the music. (Can you tell I am trying to cheer you and support you?)

August 31, 2006
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Yes, I can, and I did smile and laugh when I read that. You are just toooo cute! Thank you!

August 31, 2006
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Time for some comfort food.

August 31, 2006
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Okay, but I need to ask you something. This is kind of bothering me. I didn't realize there were kids on this site. Now I feel like I am on guard as to what I can say. Help!

August 31, 2006
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yes, gg, there is one for sure. I think she only reads her own threads. It is not your problem.

August 31, 2006
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GG:

If I may address this. From time to time a child does run across this site. Jigs is a child that came onto the site in Feb 05. She is kind of a special case. She was molested by her grandpa and then she came down w/ leukemia. She was allowed to stay. She is to only read the threads w/ her name on them. Now I have to take her word she does, and so far I trust she is. She had asked me to write her story and I did but I told her it had to be in her name so she decided she wanted to write it. She has been working on it but it is a very hard, emotional thing for her to do. I didn't think it a good idea, but she insisted. it will be posted soon, I hope, and then you'll understand better. In the meantime, if you have any questions i'll answer best I can.

September 1, 2006
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Thanks P&L and mama for explaining. As this was happening tonight, I actually got to know jigs by helping her w/homework and she kind of explained things. Until tonight, I didn't know her situation and was shocked when I read a thread about someone asking about wearing makeup last week. I guess I never thought kids would be on this site and was just worried.

September 1, 2006
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((P&L))Sometimes, just sticking to your guns is enough, as I am finding out. I told you all of my problems last spring. I've also told you that I am a teacher and these problems happened in a public school. I found out, after I revealed what was happening, that there was so much more support for me that I didn't know about that I was almost overwhelmed by it.

In the end, I returned to my school. The psycho-principal (acting) that caused me so much pain with the false accusations, and her main fan, the superintendent, are both gone.

What I didn't tell you is that the head of the school bpard and the new supt. pulled me aside the other day to tell me that they had received many calls in my support. Parents called and told them that their child had reported to them that the acting psycho-principal had threatened their kids with different disciplinary actions if they did not say that I said things to them and/or say that I was doing things that made them feel unsafe.

My point, in the end the truth comes out. Stick to your guns and don't let them get you down. There is more support for you than you know. If you need to switch jobs, do so. Be strong and walk with your head held high, you are doing the right thing!

As my counselor told me the other day, "screw em all, have a great day!"

September 1, 2006
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Confused. good one. That made me laugh. You are a strong person! Thank you!

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