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pissed at work
November 2, 2001
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Hello!

My trip to the art farm has been wonderful so far... thanks to all the other artists out there.

Today is a good day. But, I feel I must complain about a situation at work. I'm not getting credit for figuring out a problem with our network and server. The boss is giving credit to the vendor. He has not acknowledged my time or work in this at all. I hate working with him anyway because he's a real ass and treats me with little or no patience at all. Any suggestions I make he tosses aside. Now the suggestion I made has solved the problem and he ignores my contribution.

Thanks for letting me vent!

November 2, 2001
10:32 am
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Venting is good.

Let it go--you are not responsible for his assholedness(my word).

The moving artist vents

--and having vented

--moves on

--and then uses all that energy previously wasted on a-holes and their tudes

--on making something so beautiful that the rest of the world is forever changed for the better.

Love ya--Artist.

November 2, 2001
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I'll be thinking of you a lot working on my next piece... Thanks, Artist.

November 2, 2001
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The little people of this world - just really hate "light" of any kind. Their loss. And you have to look at it that way.

And....as we grow and really want to grow - we have to let go of our "ego". It's a nasty little critter and it makes us jump through alot of very unhealthy hoops. You know you did a good job....so why do you need for him to acknowledge you or praise you for that matter?

If you spin from that place - you will always get punched in the gut. And rightfully so. This is no way to live your life. For some people to approve of you - is an insult anyways. If you want approval - at least seek it from someone you respect and admire, right?

People of his character - will never be able to give you anything of value, so don't look for it. And if it causes you this much of a struggle to work with him - then you have to move on and make a path somewhere else.

Those who blaze trails, who are creative and have substance - are often on the path alot - by themselves. The more you grow - the fewer and fewer people you find on the path that understand you, connect with you. You will have to expect that and become comfortable with it.

The confident gracefulness in the way you deal with this person - says alot to him and everyone else around watching....

November 2, 2001
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yes - and he knows it.

I'll never feel alone here.

November 2, 2001
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Blondie, you are ABSOLUTELY adorable when your angry and all maternal.

I agree a double homicide probably isn't the answer. A story comes to mind that may or may not be of use here but I feel like sharing anyway.

Years ago(many) when I lived on the streets of N.Y.C and a hippie to the core, I met a young man who belonged to a religious sect called "The Process". What attracted me to him(besides the fact that he was GORGEOUS!!) was the pendant he was wearing on a simple cord around his neck. It was a crucifix with a snake entwined around it. Being intrigued and not shy I asked him what the symbolism was of the pendant. He told me that his religion believed that the only true way to vanqush the devil was to love him and that the symbol was a reminder that we become one with what we fight against. So, more food for thought.
Love ya--Artist

November 2, 2001
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Most people like that - do "know". (smile) That's why you can't let them get at you, you just smile as if to say - and you really think - I "need" your approval anyways? Dream a little dream, okay?

No....you're not alone here at all. (smile)

November 2, 2001
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Ain't this a great Friday? I'm skipping my little buns out the door... have a great one all you sweeties!

November 2, 2001
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You, too and enjoy your weekend. Try to fit in "bubbles" somewhere in it. Blow them, sit in them, pop them - whatever!

November 2, 2001
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Sounds to me like your boss has got some self-esteem issues. See, he himself isn't anything and he doesn't want any1 else to be either. So when he sees someone like you, who is intelligent and capable of feasible input, he doesn't want to be bothered. Oh well . . . like Ladeska says, his loss.

Don't sweat it!

November 3, 2001
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I hate to go against the grain of the general consensus here, but I disagree that you should just let it go. If this were a one time oversight, I would not make a big deal over it, but it sounds like this boss has shown you alot of disrespect and in my opinion, it is time to sit back and re-evaluate this job.

Are the pay and benifits worth dealing with this one annoyance? Maybe they are. Who is responsible for evaluating your work performance and possibly affecting your raises? Is there someone above your boss that you could speak with regarding your frustration? This is not high school, this is affecting your money and your life. Maybe this job IS so rewarding that it is worth the problems.

Bullies in the work force are not to be taken lightly especially when it is someone who is in a position of superiority over you. Working for a boss that cannot recognize your value can cost you raises, promotions, and peace of mind. They can also leave you doubting your own capabilities. Do not feel you have to put up with this. I'm not suggesting that you quit tomorrow or anything. I know many companies are in a hiring freeze until the economy problems get straitened out, but you might as well start looking. Who knows what you might find?

If you are not ready to leave, try speaking to your boss in a very non-threatening way. Ask him how you could improve, or if there is anything he would like you to work on. (I am not suggesting you need his advice, but bullies tend to believe that everyone wants to hear what they have to say.) It may take some acting skills, but he should not feel that he has to put you in your place if you already seem to be there. Anyway, during the conversation I would bring up some of the contributions you have made (NOT in a defensive way). It is possible he is not aware of how much you are doing. Anyway, at the very least you should be able to tell if there is any possibility of winning his good favor. (But I would still keep my eyes open for another job!!!)

November 5, 2001
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Ponytrainer....good advice. It really takes looking at things from all angles and trying to be as objective as is possible. That's what I love about these threads - when people give "perspective". Please respond more often!

Artist 2 - By all means - lay it all out there and then decide for yourself - if you should move on. It's a big world and after you have investigated things and sought your answers - then keep your head up and say - hey, if you don't want me and feel threatened or whatever - I then - don't choose "you". A good book to read is - The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand. Has a bit to say about being an individual... There are times to sit and spin and then there are times to move on. Knowing that "timing" is the key.

November 8, 2001
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He knows what a jerk he is... I'll just let him hide for now. But thanks for asking!

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