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Pickles... talk to me on the NEED PRAYERS list please!
February 16, 2004
3:19 pm
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I have questions for you. I need your advice. Can you go to the "Checking in... NEED PRAYERS" thread?

February 16, 2004
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Dear Artist2...

You'll be ok...(easy for me to say, yes?!)...but the process of loss is never easy, and it will take time...use this as an opportunity to be certain the next time you meet a great guy, you'll decide to manage the new love a little differently...and give him some breathing room...guys really do need some distance...while still loving; just not wanting to be possessed; which is sometimes the only way we girls feel secure. Just be the girl who knows how to make your beau feel special, and then back away to attend to your interests...if it's the right one, he'll still stay around.
Take it easy...deep breaths...go get a massage!!!

February 16, 2004
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You keep talking about the next guy... that's not what I want. What can I do today, now to get him back? Should I just wait for him to call me? I have to get more stuff at his house. Should I go over there trying to run into him?

you know he wanted a hug before I left but I was way too hurt to do that. For valentine's he gave me a card that said "what ever happens I'll always love you."

What do you think now that you have more details?

I wish I had played it cool. I want to have the same guy 24 years from now like you!

February 17, 2004
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Artist, I'm going to talk straight to you. You've spent the last 2+ years complaining here about this guy and his bratty kid. And now you're lamenting that "all you want is him"? Yes, I'm sure you want what you think he is or what you think he is capable of being. But you can't just pick and choose what parts of him or his family you want.

Why are you so insistent on making this relationship work? I've watched you bend, stretch, hammer and melt yourself into something you think he wants, and it never lasts. You have a honeymoon period for a few weeks where everything is perfect, and then you're back and ready to explode. You say you don't want drama, but the way you cling to this cycle makes me believe otherwise.

You have mentioned a few times about having a family of your own, and the more time you waste on this guy, the less there is for you to really enjoy life with someone who wants the same things that you do and the same type of relationship that you do. And don't tell me that he *does* want the same things. Clearly, he doesn't. He gives you a lousy card that says he will always love you, which by the way is the oldest breakup cop-out line on the planet. And because of that $2.99 card from Hallmark that he scribbled a few words in, you are willing to discount everything he has said to you for the last 2+ years that would lead you to believe otherwise?

You've had lots of time to analyze this to death. Why are you so afraid to just let this go? You can't change him. You can't. You can do anything else in this world *but* that. I'm sorry. And no matter how many times you post about this saga hoping for new people to respond, the answer is still going to be the same. And again, I'm sorry. But you are truly spinning your wheels with this particular man.

February 17, 2004
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I guess somewhere inside I can't accept that I spent nearly two years of my life struggling with this. It's almost like I want to change what it is so it doesn't feel so much like defeat. Anyway, signing off twisted as ever, Artist 2

February 17, 2004
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Defeat is curling up and accepting the status quo as the indefinite solution. It doesn't have to be that way.

February 17, 2004
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You mean a better approach is to accept the future without him as the solution?

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