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March 22, 2010
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We had a visit last night that was intended to intimidate-the police know but there's not much that can be done. The abuser is going to be in court soon. I will have to face him. I am scared and angry and terrified. I am worried for our safety. Anyone got any tips? I am furious that my home is a target. It's my daughters home I believe-a place to be safe. I don't want to run but I dont want to be ignorant either. Am angry that this animal still manages to monger fear and insecurity. Angry with myself. And sorry for my husband and child. Thought briefly last week they'd be better off without me; many kind and strong people threw me a life line here and those thoughts have subsided somewhat. But I am desperate for this pain to end.

March 22, 2010
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(((gettinthere)))

Jeez, this sounds awful!

First, NO, they would not be better off without you, you'd just be heaping more problems on their shoulders. So stop the stinkin' thinkin' now.

If you and your family's truly in harm's way, then you must remove them from this as best you can.

Do whatever you have to, and then pump all your shit (your fears, your greif, your mistrust, whatever you got) into one sock and use it to power your ass through this. Use these negative things to power you forward into positive momentum. Anger and fear are two of the best motivators out there, destructive yes, but you will curb this power for good, not evil. You must become your own super-hero. (Too bad you don't have time to design the costume, maybe later!)

You can do this. Sometimes it is not easy these awful things we have to do in life, but it is the measure of our character that we step up to the plate and do what is right. And this animal needs to be caged, but first, family safety is number one.

I know you can do this. Repeat this to yourself.

Many here will pray for you. I am sending you Super-hero strength--use it- Good luck-

March 22, 2010
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Lou you made me laugh! This is great advice. You are right. Am gonna really try and get my shit together. Last night I put a big sign on the door to intruders-as if that would make a difference! But I am FURIOUS someone thinks they have the right to invade our home. We are assessing day by day the security issue. Today is ok. I will not, I repeat NOT cop that intimdation bullshit now I am an adult. No way. Thanks for you straight shooting. Bloody brilliant.

Best to you also. XXX

March 22, 2010
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I agree with Lou, NO your family would not be better off without you. And YES muster all those negative thoughts and anger to help move you forward.

As long as you feel your family is safe and you are all assessing day by day security that’s all that matters.

Even if the cops can’t do much it may be worth talking to the prosecutor handling the case, maybe an added charge of witness intimidation could be filed against him as well, it may be worth a phone call.

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

March 22, 2010
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I too agree with Lou. I'm gonna take some of that sock advice too!! Hang in there and stay safe but strong and brave!

March 22, 2010
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Thanks so much Ata and fantas...it's just gruelling. One day slightly up, next down then the next really really low. It's a good point though about witness intimidation. Will definately keep that in mind. So far I have no material proof. The bastard. Bought a book on witchcraft today. Only White magic though. Might create some good vibes around my home and ward off evil spirits.

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