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August 30, 2007
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i am so done with people who want me for something, don't get it and then dump me for it. The other day a woman called me, a neighnor i met for about five mins at her garage sale, she seemed nice, but I don't know her. I wanted too for awhile. She asked me if I would be wiling to sit her two kids for a hour and half a day. She told me that the fee of 80 a week was too much for her and that they only went a few days a week, I felt bad for her, I felt sorta of sucked in and said ok...I then slept on it and thought, omg I don't know her well enough, I wanted to wait to get to know her better and her kids, we only met five mins remember, she said she liked me right away and could trust me, how i wonder? I then said well lets get together and allow our girls to get to know one each other better, I never hear from her now, its like she has lost interest, I told her that i would consider doing that for her, but down the road, once we got to know each other, so its like now since she has no sitter, she is not interested in getting ot know us now~ I think she only wanted to get to know me, cause she wanted an conveintent sitter, glad I found out early,but still, I feel sorta of hurt, but I know I shouldn't too...its like this for me anymore, as soon as someone does not need me for something anymore,they just stop bothering to call me.

August 30, 2007
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Now I wonder why I don't seem to meet people like you instead of the type of people you're talking about. I had a "friend" like this. I was watching her kids for practically nothing and doing a lot of chores for her. She was otherwise unavailable to me. I cut her off and I'm glad I did.

Please don't take it personally. You are one of those rare people with a big heart and room to share a true friendship. Most people just want a babysitter. Or something else. And people who don't want to pay for the service are always looking for people who will be "friends".

I am saying a prayer for you, that a true and worthy friend comes into your life. And mine!

soofoo

August 30, 2007
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soofoo..thank you so much for your post, I have a tendency to get into situations like these, but lately since I had taken control of my life, I don't fall into the traps as easily as I used too...It used to be bad for me, I would be so sucked in for so long, that I never even seen it coming, now I see it way before it happens anymore. It would of been easy to be there for her and to hope for scrap of her time or atteniton, but it would of came with a price, and its a big price tag I am not wiiling to pay anymore.
I am sorry to hear this happened to you and you got hurt too. I hope you and I both find someone who will want us as friends and not someone they need to use and throw away if not needed anymore. hugs to you and thanks agsin for your post..time for bed now, 630 comes way too early for me~!

September 6, 2007
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Survivor-I've been in situations like these since I was five years old! Literally, I kid you not. I was abused for years.
As an artist and an actor, I strive to take the painful situations in my life and turn them into a beautiful creation. I don't know if you are artistically inclined, but that's beside the point. I've found it very helpful to look at every experience as a lesson and to use it for furthering good in my life as wel as in the lives of those around me, regardless of whether those good feelings are reciprocated or not. It's only an outlook, a matter of personal choice, really. But it is satisfying and liberating to believe in your own grace, regardless of the selfishness of others. I hope that helps.

September 6, 2007
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Thank you Raphael..I so would like to focus on the good things in life, but life just leaves me exhausted, by the time i do what I need to get done in life, its time to pick up my child at school, start dinner, help with homework, bath time routines and what have you and in bed by 930 so i can arise by 630 to do it all over again, leaves me very tired!!!! I would love to do more in life and be creative...a friend would be nice, even someone to just talk to on the phone once a month, but there no volunteers out there, and everyone I do know is too busy for me, so ...I guess I get caught up in life, the businesses of it all here, and my own sadness...I would love nothing more to do something like that, but I have been job seaching for two months, and can't even get a interview and I guess its good cause now we have to move, again cause the plant my hubby works in is leaving town and we have to go with them or become destitute here...sorry for the details, my child was sick home today and not doing well, i am just stressed out and very tired of life, thanks anyhow!

September 6, 2007
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I pretty much understand that i will prolly be alone for the rest of my life. I had only had very few friends my entire lifetime and of course you know how that goes...so I am becoming my own best friend. I have no other choice here.

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