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past baggage holding me back
January 20, 2000
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Samuel
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I've been lurking on this site for over a year now, reading other people's threads and gaining some helpful insight into my problems. I've realized I've been mourning over my lost family and childhood. I've known since a kid that I have a low self worth. But
now I'm taking steps to get over my problems.
Which leads me to the bigest hurtle I have to face, all the emotional baggage that's holding me down. It keeps me from believing that anyone could care for me. It keeps me from having any real friendships. because of it I seek out only negitive relationships, input, and thought. My entire family suffers from this same baggage, and though they got away from my family, none of them ever managed to escape from it. I'm I doomed to live this half life, just going through the motions day in and day out? Or is there hope?

January 20, 2000
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Hi Samuel yes, there is hope, you just have to believe that. Find some people to talk to who will listen to you. You deserve the best. Good luck and let me know how you do. Take care.

January 20, 2000
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SAMUEL If you have been coming here for a year, you can see there is hope and people change, grow and heal and lead rewarding, strong happy lives.........if you will allow it.
Yes the decision is yours, entirely.
You are intelligent enough to see the baggage that is creating more of the same in your life...so why not pack it up tomorrow morning. Why not leave it beside your bed?
In the morning say a prayer to god (as you know god)"I surrender this baggage of pain and drain to you my lord and ask that you replace the part of me that it filled with hope, love and faith in self and you."
symbolically leave this baggage behind and make a choice to replace the place it filled with thoughts of love, forgiveness and peace. This baggage that has attracted more pain and grief into your life is filled with feelings that you have carried with you as a result of your childhood..i.e. resentment, anger, bitterness, sadness, fear, loneliness etc.. Every day the sun goes down and clears away that day and a new one begins, we like the sun can clear away, with the help of god/higher power, all of the negatives that were darkening our existance. Understand that those who hurt you knew no better and were hurting themselves. Forgive those who trespassed against you, and forgive yourself.
You can renew yourself and your life and find your own truth and joy. god bless

January 20, 2000
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I believe in you. God believes in you. You believe in you. Do this every day untill one day you forget not to leave the baggage because for some miraculous reason the baggage is no longer there to drop....:)

January 21, 2000
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Dear Samuel,
I wrote you a HUGE post but somehow it got erased. I will try to regain it tomrrow, though I know the full moon / eclipse was fueling me significantly. Suffice to say, I am in YOUR SAME BOAT, but have lots "insights" for you. IN a nutshell, BE YOU FOR YOU, and let everybody else be them for them.
Lots of love and hugs from,
HOLLY2000

January 27, 2000
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thanks for the possitive post guys.

January 27, 2000
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Samuel,

If you read my thread on Revenge is, living successful, I too have gone through which is not all listed in my thread, but have gone through simuliar circumstances. I have not mentioned that I grew up feeling the same as you. I am much happie now. I don't need anyone to rely on except myself. Yes, I admit there are times that we do reflect or look back and it hurts real bad. It is even harder to say I'll put it behind me. I guess the last year was my worst year in my life and I almost did not make it. Part of me died, the part to go on but now I am going on with my life. Feeling lonely and not wanted are feelings of rejection and no love. I found that in my life there was always a void. I would pick the real winners and I would end the loser. I finally found out what the void was. It was me. I took time and still am taking time for me. It is hard to believe, but you must believe in you. You can only mourning too long my friend. Its time to let go. Turn those negatives into positives and be happy with yourself. I tried it, I tried living and being on my own and you know I like the piece and quiet. I like being on my own. I have recently gone out to make me happy. I have met friends along the way. When you have the confidence and look and feel good, people will be attracted to you. I would suggest though that if you are not in theraphy go for yourself. Don't make anyone happy but you. As far as your relationships, noone wants to be alone. All of us want that special someone who cares for us. Find yourself then in time you will meet the right person. Seek and you shall learn. Be happy
Could elaborate on how you lost your family and what had caused this torment in your life? You have many strangers here but we are friends here to help if you need it.
Lets us know how you are doing.
Take care
Cerry

July 5, 2000
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July 7, 2000
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key for me was realising that My mother and father were incapable of love for me because they never had it themselves....its nothing personal.
I no longer take anything personal.
I know this sounds a little cryptic.,but I hope you come to this sad but true realisation and not continue to waste precious energy trying to change your parents or family or thinking that YOU are the one with the problem.
I let go and in came god.

July 7, 2000
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Samuel.There's always hope, seek it out........it's the taboo against knowing who we are. We are taught others beliefs, values or lack of, and are conditioned by our enviornment ie. and the physical and emotional baggage that go with it. Take the good, leave the rest in the old movies vault..you can always pull them out..and continue to seek out and incorporate the positive into your life. What is so wonderful is that just one in a family is all it takes to begin to change the cycle we live from negitive to a loving positive journey that will be passed on.....

July 8, 2000
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samuel i think im in the same place as u.
how old r u (about?)
life sucks...
tonight i have had a bad beginning to this weekend.

July 11, 2000
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Thanks for the possitive post guys. Guest_Guest its good to hear from you, yours was the first post I started reading on this site and I found it helped alot. To answer your question I'm in my early thirties.

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