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Parental Abduction
October 16, 2006
12:25 pm
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Worried_Dad
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You know, with my step-dad just dying, a new thought has come to me.

It has been eating at the edges of my mind for a long time, but now it feels real to me, and I think it would be good for me to talk about it.

I come from a family where parental abduction is the norm. In my family, it is normal for women to take children far, far away from their fathers, and to alienate them from their fathers.

I don't think my family, or the law, would agree, but best I can tell, from a medical viewpoint, me and my brother and sister were abducted children.

I was angry at my Mom for that for a long time. Then, for a while I was mad at my Dad for letting it happen. I guess I am still pissed off at him for that.

Now, I'm not very mad at either of my parents. I don't want to repeat their mistakes, though.

I guess now, I am just trying to acknowledge and really feel the impact of my parent's behavior.

Technically, Mom did things fair and square, legally. Good for her. But emotionally, and psychologically, we had what has come to be popularly known as a "radical parentectomy."

My experience, and my reality, right now, is that I was an abducted child.

That was not good for me.

October 16, 2006
12:48 pm
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WD:

Do you remember if your biodad was abusive to your mom or to you kids? I'm not for abducting your kids unless, and there are times, it is in the best interest of the child.

I posted a little to you on your other thread. Wish I'd seen this one before I did.

I pose to you here the same question I had for you on the other thread. Answer here if you will, coz I DON'T want your other thread to be taken away from the heartfelt well wishes you will get there.

(((( WD ))))

October 16, 2006
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That happened to me too.

My mother took us 3000 miles away to another country and I didnt see my dad again till I was an adult

She did what she thought was best but .....It sucks

October 16, 2006
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WD,
I am sorry for your loss.
Without more history from you, it's hard to understand. Your mother and father must have divorced for you to have had a step dad. Do you know the circumstances around that or more so, what were you told?

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

October 16, 2006
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My Grandma did soret of the same thing with her two boys and one daughter.

In that situation, grandad was horribly abusive to my Mom at least, and probably to grandma and the boys, too. Grandma was all set to blow the guy's head off. Literally, if he had come home that night he would have died. But fortunately, he just didnt come home that night. So she took the kids and split. That had to leave an impression on my mom.

With my parents, it was not abusive that inspired my mom to finally split. We seemed to be a happy family in Waldorf, MD. Nice little house, neighbors, nearby schools. I was so happy.

But my Mom had heard that a person could rich in Alaska--that was in the Pipeline construction days. So We woke up one morning and Mom and my younger siblings were unexpectedly gone.

A while later she came and got me and took me to Alaska as well. Never asked me what I wanted.

October 16, 2006
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Worried_Dad
I was actually kidnapped to save family face when I was 15mo old back in the 50's. My Dad was given custody of me during a terrible divorce. I didn't know I had another Dad untill I was 11yrs..(it slipped out) but when I was able to uncover his life info about 7yrs ago he had already passed away. I don't feel like I was kidnapped though, I sort of feel it was just another chapter in a young soul's life. It was very painful in my younger years but it made me a stronger, kinder person and open to others that have gone through similar situations. I think we have to really look at those feelings, I journal alot and get them out. Between that and counseling, 12-step program I learn not to live in the past but take what was good in it and discard the rest and live today.. Hope that helps a little you are not alone I am sure there are many out there that have had the same experiences but today is what counts..you are a survivor or you would not have written....

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