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P.O'd is back in this!!!!
June 5, 2007
12:40 pm
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Long time no speak to lots here...have had a TON of stuff happen since I was last here...Husband and I have been getting along in almost ALL respects for LONG time now,we had a tragedy recently that seems to have made us closer.I became pregnant in April with my 3rd child,and then had a miscarriage in mid May,and we were devastated,but have agreed to try again and see what happens from there.I am going back to work after a more than year long hiatus,and could not be happier in that department.I am however NOT happy with the fact that my husband still seems to have a problem with internet porn.I have talked,screamed,cried,monitored...nothing seems to stop him.I even left last fall over it and took my pc with me,just to show him I have no problem whatsoever with taking the internet away because porn makes me not trust him.Or any man for that matter.He seems to understand & is incredibly apologetic when I confront him,swears he won't do it anymore,if he wants something from me in that department,he swears he'll come to me and see if I can accomodate him,but it always happens again.He doesn't spend money on it,so I'm not worried that we are gonna go into financial straits over it,but I would rather be flat broke and KNOW there is no porn in my house than having my husband paying more attention to whores than me...Sometimes he says I am making this much bigger than it needs to be,that I have nothing to be worried about,that they are just pictures,that there isn't a man on this Earth that loves his wife more,blah blah blah....I guess I am just curious,am I nitpicking and pouting to get my way in this,or what?Opinions?

June 5, 2007
1:46 pm
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p.o'd... No you are not nit picking or pouting. I don't think that a lot of men understand how devastating and humiliaring porn is to women. The soeciety is very two faced about the issue as well. I think your husband could be addicted to porn from what you say. I don't think he can stop it by sheer will at this point. I have no idea what the treatment for porn is but I think you should treat him the same way you treat an alcoholic. Whether or not porn is a big deal or not, the fact that it makes you uncomfortable is enough for him to change and for you to seek change. In the end, you will have to decide just how much of it you can put up with. I would be very uncomfortable if my partner was doing it. All the best to you.

June 5, 2007
4:04 pm

Hi po'd,

I've thought about you and wondered how you were. I think that fantas is right on the money to say that internet porn addiction functions in very much the same way alcohol addiction does.

One book you might find helpful is In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior. (2001), by Patrick Carnes, D. Delmonico, & E. Griffin, with J. Moriarity. It is published by Hazelden, and you should be able to get a copy at most libraries although you might find it worth buying outright.

Patrick Carnes has also written several other books on sex addiction which you might also find helpful. I wish you well with your relationship, po'd, and I hope your husband is willing to get treatment for his addiction.

June 5, 2007
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I love you girl. Though I knew how things were for you...I just wanted to let you know that I love you, and I miss you...and I hope to talk to you soon. Good to see your name back around these parts. We have missed you around here too.



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