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Overwhelmed Again!
August 6, 2001
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Jaskid
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Well once again I feel very overwhelmed...
I can't seem to get control over my life.
My house is a disaster, I'm still on prozac after 2 yrs, I yell at my kids too much, and I blame my husband for everything. There are so many things that I want to do but I can't.
I don't even know where to start anymore because everything seems so kaotic. I will have a really good day once in a while but that's not enough to get everything done that I need. My husband tells me not to give up, just do a little at a time, but a little is not enough, if I am ever going to change my life I need a major overhaul. I want to go to couselling but we do not have the money. It just seem like all I'm doing any more is just trying to make it through the day. Shouldn't I be looking forward to tomorrow? I'm not and that's really sad for my beautiful children. They deserve a mother who is not just trying to make it through this life, but who will teach them to find the joy in it.
I guess I'm just looking for some encouragement and a hug. I'm tired, scared, and just can't wait to hit my head on that pillow. If I could come up with a slogan about me...It would be..."I LIVE TO SLEEP!"

Pathetic I know.
:(Jaskid

August 6, 2001
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((((((((((((Jaskid))))))))))
I can so relate to the house being a disaster. I am going through a major overhaul right now in my life. I am not a counselor just another person trying to make it through another day too. I would first say just pick one thing to do that would make you feel you accomplished something to be proud of. Example walk a mile, clean one room, write in a journal, read ,draw or paint, ride a bike,talk to a friend, post a thread etc... I feel if we start simple then we can move to bigger and better things. It's called building self-esteem. I don't see you as a pathetic person. First of all if you were you wouldn't be asking for encouragment and talking about things you would like to change. If I get to overwhelmed about the things I haven't done and the things I need to do then I start to get emotionaly in trouble. Keep it simple and live life one day at a time. Take time to stop and smell the roses.
best wishes Damaged

August 6, 2001
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"I live to sleep" - depressed?

Your husband is right....so is damaged

PICK ONE THING A DAY....AND DO IT...

make sure it is reasonable...not "I will clen the entire house"

Make that one thing a list.

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1. Dust living room

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1. do laundry

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1. Clean fridge

Sit mback and analyze the statement

"to get done what I NEED"

What do YOU need? to be healthy? to be content with loving your self and your family? to be alive and well and not asleep?

Sounds like you're shooting yourself in the foot with your own expectations and what you SHOULD be doing. Get rid of the word SHOULD..that is someone else not you.

Get the boook "Change your brain Change your life" by a Dr. Amen to help you change the way you are talking to yourself.

Good luck

And if the prozac helps you it doesn't matter if yoou are on it for 60 years.

August 6, 2001
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Jaskid, on top of that list of chores,you need to include on that list stuff only for you, like sitting the children down in their rooms for mom's quiet hour. Right smack in the middle of the day, and then another hour, where despite all, the kids the mess, and exhaustion, time for you and hubby, the mutual massage hour, or at least jaskids hour to lock her self in the bathroom with lavender bath salts, and candles, and music to drown out the sounds of husbands taking care of children, you get the idea.
I had the opportunity to meet a woman that left me in awe last year, she was barely 32, and expecting her seventh child. Upon introduction, she apologized for so many pregnancies, and admitted that she was a devout Catholic, and was concearned about her marital relations,as well as the church, as her husband had finally gotten a vasectomy, so not to worry about more children, and by the way was not on welfare.
This woman who I was supposed to give pre natal and parenting classes to, was beyond my wildest imagination, the most organized, concearned, and happy woman I had met in decades.
The children ranged in age from 14 to just about to be born, each child had a task to complete durning the day, and she never ever bent the rules. The main rule was that certain taskes had to be completed by 3 because she had to watch her show Oprah, after Oprah, then they all went to the library to do home work, and she got to read, and yada yada. She drove them all to school, to their medical appointments, she was the real suzy homemaker mom, that had defined organizational skills and utilized them. Monday was laundry day, Tuesday was market day, Wednesday was the major cooking day,Thursday was the library day, Friday was the park day, and the children knew the order for baths, and all in bed at 830 every night so she and her husband had their time. She took a class on Saturday mornings for her escape, art paintings, and social interaction. It can be done. Now mind you, with two children i wasn't this organized, but it can be done.
her husband didn't help much, so she worked around his personality, and by the way I don't know if it was her faith or the church that gave her the energy or the motivation, but every Sunday they were there, so go figure.
Make believe you have been struck by the energy make happy fairy, and see if on paper you can create a schedule, if not your just going to continue the same catch up game, and always be exhausted, you need to take care of you.

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