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February 13, 2000
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lamia
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Every person i have ever liked is always too good for me in my head. im overly controlled about my actions and can never let go..at the fear of something i still have'nt discovered and something that gets to me most is that i find it very hard to go back no matter how much i want its almost as if im waiting for sumbody else to make a move and it kills.

so can someone please help me out here ...it would be very nice .

February 13, 2000
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lamia,
do you think you are afraid of being good to others, so you think others are to good for you?
Jay

February 13, 2000
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Jay,
Im not sure about what you just said as in i dont see the connection.

February 18, 2000
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Lamia,

Sounds like you have self-esteem & self-image issues, which are likely worsened by negative self-talk.

When we tell ourselves bad things about ourselves in our head, it's like self brainwashing. Your negative messages need to be realistically evaluated, and replaced by realistic positive messages.

Our internal messages (sentences we say to ourselves about ourselves) become self fulfilling prophecies. If we want positive outcomes, we need to re-create our internal messages.

Keep us updated.

SC

February 23, 2000
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lamia, it sounds like you have trust issues and find it impossible to trust. I was hard to understand exactly what you were getting at but if you feel like your behaviours are controlled by wanting to please others, you need to consider Codependency and low-self esteem issues. I attend Codependents' Anonymous (CoDA) meetings and find them so very helpful, maybe you could give that or some counselling a try?
All the best to you.

February 29, 2000
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The self talk thing is a big deal.

Negetive self talk is hard to stop

It goes along with negating any nice thing someone says to us...

If someone says you look good ..just say "thanks" or Agree!! Yes I Do!!!

Only yse ice owrd in your head about ourslef!!1

February 29, 2000
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That last line is....
Only use nice words in you head about yourself.

(fingers on the wrong keys...oops)

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