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Our reactions to our lives...food for thought
February 7, 2005
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I have said this before, and some of this is prompted from my beliefs. But we all have the same scenarios or have had the same scenarios happen...both men and women. And I continue to be amazed...most of us react the same way, and give the same help again and again.
For all of the similarities, do you ever think that what you envision, or what you expect, or what you limit yourselves by is what one receives? That if you expect good things then you will receive good things, as well as the opposite?
Can't sleep at the moment and wanted to bounce this off of a few.

February 7, 2005
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Dear on my way: In my case, I disagree with "expect good things and you'll get good things." I had a very hopeful heart after a two-year abstinence from a four-year relationship to really start again with someone new. Met a wonderful guy. Found out about all his problems a year into it, and now it's over at his choosing. I had some codependent qualities, but far from all his problems which he chooses not to do anything about, but move on to the next person that will take him in until they tire of his antics (he said that to me). So I really really tried to be good and kind to him even after he walked out three or four times and held me hostage via phone becuase I couldn't contact him. I still chose to help him to show him that there are good people and not everyone is out to get him. It got me nowhere, so I'm back to not trusting men or relationships again.

Just my thoughts......

February 7, 2005
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I think we should all expect good things. I don't know that all will receive good things tho. I do think that those that expect nothing but negative or bad things tho do set themselves up to get nothing but that. Whether it be that we just attract the wrong people and things or we sabatoge ourselves. Negative thinking can never be good for us.

Just my thoughts.....

February 7, 2005
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I think the important thing is the way we react. I have seen it with my husband and myself - he tends to be an upbeat, 'seize the day' kind of person, and setbacks, especially at work, put him into problem-solving mode. I go into 'fight or flight', and end up beaten down, unable to make a decision.

I don't know if this way of reacting is more the result of my natural personality, or my dysfunctional family, but the same thing that is just an incident to him, is another scene in the Great Tragedy Of My Life.

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