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other families? Why...
October 11, 2001
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At various periods in my life i would adopt different families. I would naturally attach myself to other homes.
I was born in 1974. Periods after my birth represent certain families: 1975-80, 81-86, 86-88, 91-93, 96-98, 99; 98-99, early to summer 2000; and winter 2000 to summer 2001.
The only periods that i was closest to my own birth family was the first half of high school 1989-91, the first year of work 1994-95, and the first year of college in 1996-97.
In my opinion certain shared activities constitutes a family. Such as: sleeping over, doing chores, eating meals together, discussing issues, playing games, watching movies together, celebrating family events, and sharing conflicts...
I am not sure how many of those families felt as close to me as i did to them. But, they all had two things in common, Larger houses and more children.
My biological parents were always good to me, but, i felt closer to others...The only conflicts i had with my real parents was with their mind sets. Specifically my father's reasoning and my mothers' emotions. Other than those things we got along fairly well..
So, why did I have the need to be part of other families, instead of my own?

October 11, 2001
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I guess we human are not really 'family people'. At least not, if the family is small (mother father child). I also feel better when I have a whole 'tribe' of people around me. So I really think that it is a good thing that you could make friends whith so many people in your life.
Did you also have time together whith your birth family while you adopted another family, or did they kind of 'abandon' you to the other families?

October 15, 2001
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yes

October 17, 2001
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:-)),

It's quite easy to answer an *this or that* question whith yes. So which is it?

October 17, 2001
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You're just experiencing and being honest about your own individuality, which I personally think is wonderful. Nothing warped about it. You are allowing yourself to have - your own tribe - which originates from - what you like, want and need in your life. Two thumbs up for you, girlfriend!!! Tribe....ah yes, one of my favorite words - with deep meaning to me personally....

We are evolving creatures, ever changing, expanding ourselves, needing different things in our lives at different times. You are "dancing" which I love to see. People who dance - are people of movement.... They are not stagnant - they move, they twirl, the experience, they allow the river of life to flow as it should.

People who are sojourners in life - are not afraid to live outside the box because - that is where their true security is - in the unknown because they deeply realize that safety is never wrapped in what we suppose we know. The limitness that is - would surely object to our arrogance and promptly smack us on the ass. (smile)

We are not our biological family - we are what we paint, what we feel, what we sing, what we dance, we are the ether that we live behind in people's minds when they think of us. We are - what we create. If our biological family can also be called friends - then we include them in our Tribe. If not - then we will probably have to discard them if they are abusive or limit them with rigid boundaries.

Put the dancing shoes on and stop worrying so much about whether you are politically correct or not! Artists, musicians, writers, sojourners, visionaries, prophets and all other people who are in touch with their uniqueness - never are politcally correct or understood necessarily. What would you really have with such a stamp of approval anyways? I learned a long time ago - for some people to approve of me is quite the insult. (smile)

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