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on line romance
June 14, 2000
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Since my husband and I have split up almost a year ago...I have been going into different chat rooms to fill the lonely time. Nothing really serious has ever developed...have always kept reality and fantasy separate. But in the last two months I have developed a relationship with someone I have met in a chat room. Since this relationship has evolved...I have stopped chatting with everyone but him. We have spoken a few time via telephone...and of course we seem to have everything in common. We have finally decided that it is time for a meeting and he is coming to visit me. I have thought about all the dangers you hear about and read about...but have spoken to him at his work place and feel secure in the fact that he isn't a physco.

My question is...what do all of you feel about on line romances...can fantasy become reality? I have been totally honest with this man...and believe he has been so with me. He is coming in six weeks...

Has anyone else experienced anything similar to this? Thank you for any input you may have.

June 14, 2000
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I have certainly not try any of this. but In my present situation. I don't mind give it a try.

June 15, 2000
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It is just another way to meet someone ,but it is not enough to KNOW the person . To know someone needs to meet the person many times in different situations, at different hours, in different places,with different people,in the morning and in the afternoon,in winter and in summer,when s/he is angry,and when s/he relaxed ...etc.And,of course, to communicate with each other during such contexts.

The same thing applys to the other person.

Knowing someone very well needs some time.

June 15, 2000
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As iris says, it is just another way of meeting someone.
You run the same risks whether you meet at work or on-line.
Just on-line it is easier for people to decieve at first. But if you meet them then you are at the same place really as if you meet them at the store or something. Use your usual judgement.

My brother met his fiance on-line, she has now moved over here from Canada. He also met his business partner on line.
Sometimes the only way we get to talk to him is on-line!!

It doesn't matter how you meet someone - what matters is whether you and that person can get on. The same with anything - some people you like and some you don't.

Think of all the people you know right now, i bet you met them all in a variety of ways. Why should the internet be and different?
Peace
Haz

June 19, 2000
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I have known more than a few people who have met their loves this very same way. And they are all together still.
There are risks and with everything, ways to minimize the risks.

Meeting the first couple times in open, areas which are highly visible... having a friend with you. etc, etc...

Good luck in your romance....

care~~~

June 20, 2000
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The internet is the a hi tech way of meeting different people from all over the world. I did the same as
you chatted over the computer he started phoning me every day then I
travelled across the Pacific Ocean to meet him in person. We got on really well to the point we wanted to be together so I gave up my job of 15 years and went back across the ocean
got to know each other better So we
got engaged. To enable us to get married I had to immigrate and I had to be out of the country while this happened which took 8 weeks. I was only back with my fiance three and a half weeks when he committed suicide.
I believed and trusted this man with my future, so how do you know? When do you find out the lies when its too late ? My advice is be careful, I wouldnt wish what I went through on anyone. It hurts.

June 26, 2000
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Carolyn,
what happened to you is truely terrible, I am so sorry.

Youa re right, sometimes we can just never know what is happeneing in someone elses mind unless they choose to allow us in.

I think this can happen however you meet someone though. you can meet honest people and you can meet deeper more deceptive people anywhere.

It just goes to show that we must all take our time in getting to know people however we meet them and that even when we do all we can, therea re no guarentees in life about anything or anyone.
peace to you
Hazza

June 30, 2000
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Dear Inquisitive,

Good for you. It is your life and noone can tell you what to do. I wonder what is the difference between meeting someone in a bar or meeting someone on line. The difference is you can't see then nor can you tell if they are as you would call it a psyhco or even telling the truth.

Well, everyone it is possible. I thought years ago that meeting someone on line was rather scary and crazy. I would have never thought of actually meeting anyone.
Well, just as you did, I did have a breakup and all I did was work on my pc. At times it was lonely but it was interesting to meet and talk with people just as you people are reading my thread. Do you believe me or do you not?
We never know do we. I met someone on line and I too spent many hours emailing him and visa versa. We chatted many hours. Some of us tend to look at the book cover before we decide to go out with someone. Right? Well, I did not know what he looked like but found that I was very attracted to him by what he said and I knew he was not lying. Trust me I knew. We decided to meet even though he lives 2 hours away. Funny as it seems, I have always had a terrible birthday. Not this time. We did meet on my birthday but he did not come to my house. We met at a coffee shop. I felt like I knew him. I can say he made my birthday very special and took me out to dinner. We have so many common interests. We both wanted to meet the other person because not only did we have so many things in common but we both felt as if we were talking to ourselves. Make sense? We are so much alike it is scary.
Well, to make a long story short, we are going going to be married in May next year. My mother of all people loves him as a future son in law and every weekend we see each other.
One day, I had car problems and he drove 2 hours in the rain and then fixed it in a thunder storm.
So when I say it is possible listen to me, I have been there. It is possible but I am also saying sometimes it is dangerous. In this case it is not.
Best of luck
Cerry

July 11, 2000
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It doesn't matter where or how you meet your love--it's all the same. Take your time--learn all that you can about each other and make your decisions.The internet is just another mode of getting to know each other with some advantages and disadvantages just like any other situation. I met my future husband on-line. I learned all about his good points and his bad but chose to stay with him in full knowledge of what our relationship would be like. (I could have met him anywhere--the result and my choices would not have been different. and one can't blame the internet for personal choices.)

July 26, 2000
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