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Ok, Now the Dung has Hit the Tractor Blades
March 23, 2007
9:33 pm
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Just an update here on my situation, for all of you who have asked (thank you)...

After 26 years of marriage, my husband basically sprang the surprise of bankruptcy on me about 9 months ago. He had rung up many credit cards to the max, running both of our credit ratings into the ground. After recovering from the fallout on that, he decides to take off without a trace about 2 months ago. Turns out he had gone to Florida to meet a woman he met on the Internet. He drove down there with another woman from work. I don't even want to go into detail about all of that, but the woman he met on the Internet was from one of those nasty porn sites.

He went down and came back twice, and has now lied and gone down a third time to find a job down there. Ok, silly me, stupid me, wants to trust him time and time again. He calls last night and says that he wants to come home, he cannot find a job and he wants his family back. He called tonight and said that he was on his way back and got a call about a job interview and has decided to stay longer after all.

I cannot believe my reaction...I totally lost it!! I yelled and screamed at him...have never done that to anyone in my life, not even my kids. I told him that I was so done with him. Then I hung up on him. Hung up on all of his lies, his excuses, our 26-year-old marriage, my life as I've known it, my future with him, growing old with him (growing? actually, I've grown older just these past 2 weeks).

The kids are upset and blaming me. I have to face life as a single mom with 3 teens and an 8-month, pregnant 21-year-old. Good thing I'm on blood pressure medication. Good thing I have faith in God. Good thing I don't drink or take drugs.

Hitting rock bottom has its advantages...well, lessee, I'll let you know what they are when I come out of it.

Peace out, all

March 23, 2007
10:07 pm
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(((CODA_MOM)))) I am so sorry that you are going through all of this. I commend you for not letting him walk over you again. That takes a lot of strength. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

March 23, 2007
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Im a single mom too, with two teens. I understand. My ex was a drug addict. To this day they think we broke up because of me,because I am one to end it, because I don;t tell them all that happened, drug deals, stealing, not going to jobs, not helping out etc. They think he is father of the year while even after 15 years of no child support and no interaction or father figure he is still high up there for them. I don't interfere with that. I know what it is, and they learn on their own; make own judgment. So will you. 26 six year is a very long marriage and long history. But despite the rock bottom of it, you will move up. I hit rock bottom when I would no longer believe a word, I was numb to explanations. And I moved on. I feel for you. Being deceived is devastating. But better to know than not know. And get your ducks in order and protect yourself. You will come through it, flying colors, if you stick to believing in yourself.

March 23, 2007
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Coda Mom, you are human and you finally had to release all the emotions and feelings that you had been keeping a lid on for so long. Your kids don't understand the emotional turmoil you have been going through and they are in their own teenage worlds. You have to take care of yourself first now, which means making decisions that are not easy or popular.

I know your faith is keeping you grounded, but God does not call us to be doormats. Your husband has totally abused your trust, your finances, and your family. You have to take this stand and I hope you have good friends that you can surround yourself with during this difficult time. Seems like God gives us close friends that will hold us up when we get too tired to hold ourselves up. Hang in there and know you have many prayers coming your way.

Love, TS

March 24, 2007
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(((CODA_Mom))) Hold on to that anger, sweetie...you'll need it to keep yourself centered and focused to walk away. I'm raising two teenagers by myself, and my ex is an abusive alcoholic who hasn't seen my daughter in months, and who actually called her a f***ing b**ch on the phone the other day. All I can say to you is...take care of yourself and your kids. NO ONE else will make sure that you are taken care of, except for God. Trust in Him, and he'll be there for you. Sometimes you will feel alone, but he'll give you the strength you need to get through this. I wish you peace, and I hope you find it...

March 24, 2007
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{{{CM}}} I am all in tears, shock...astounded at what things emerged to. I can't believe after all these years...your hubby is doing that!!!

Faith is a Great tool and it's followed by patience and prayers and that's what I can offer to you hon and suggest you to hold on to.

You are not in an envious situation at all, and I hope no one will taste what you're doing thru.

My prayers and hugs will continue to you and your family and even your hubby. May God forgive him! {{{CM}}}

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