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Oh well..he did show up!!
July 22, 2005
7:39 am
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I had a feeling that he'd find a way to make it up there last night to play darts...they ended up showing up. He didn't have the money for his deposit for the electric bill but she had the money to take them out and go drinking. She's now telling everyone she is his GF. Yeah, hard for me to swallow when all his stuff is here at MY house. It was okay...we all had a good time last night.

I met a very nice man who was staring at me all night, kept coming by. I finally went up and introduced myself. He's nice, single dad w/his 6yr old son who lives with him fulltime. We talked a bit and exchanged numbers and I went home.

But I'm not ready to date. I was very upfront and telling him that I just was coming out of a long term relationship and still trying to get my head and heart together. But it was nice to have someone pay attention to me. But I'm just not ready.

Didn't sleep a bit last night. Looks like I really have lost him folks. Having a tough time facing this. I really am. Thank goodness I am seeing my therapist tonight.

July 22, 2005
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Hi Sexy,

My heart goes out to you. I know what it feels like after several years of being together, it must be devastating.

I find you admirable for being aware that you are still at crossroads not knowing how to sort things out, and commend you on being upfront with the knew guy you just met last night. We all need validation especially at times like that. I understand and sympathize with this a lot.

Take your time with this new guy. Too bad for your hubby, I believe it
is his loss. He lost a special person!!!

(((Hugs & Prayers)))

July 22, 2005
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Thank you R.

I don't even think I can bring myself to go to dinner. It would be wrong right now. I've got so much healing. I'm sitting here contemplating on whether to pack up the rest of his stuff...except for his valuables which I want to hold onto until he pays me back the 3k he owes me. Not sure what to do...the fact that he isn't getting them...still gives me hope that he's just taking a break.

July 22, 2005
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Oh Sadie!

It must be so difficult to still hang out in the same social circle with him, especially since he is now with someone else! I think my heart would break a little bit every time I saw them together!

Take your time with dating... You are doing the right thing by not jumping right into a new relationship. But, it does feel good to be WANTED, doesn't it???

These guys take so much of our self esteem that we forget what a great catch we really are!??

They'll realize someday, but unfortunately for them... it will be too late.

Hang in there SS!

TC

July 22, 2005
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boy, Sadie....you are only a few weeks behind me in the same drama. My wife hadn't come to get her stuff either. So when the 'other man' left his wife and moved into his own place about 10 days ago, my wife was glad to come get some of her things. She now had somewhere to put them. It pissed me off. Some of our property is now in HIS apartment being used by him. So I took every stitch of her clothes and dumped them in a back bedroom in a big ass pile. I closed the door. She owes me about 2000 and she wants about 1700 worth of furniture out of the house. said she would pay me once I got everything. Now, she's being a bitch. So I took the house keys from her. If she wants her stuff, she had better show up with cash. I know, not the right thing to do but it pisses me off.

July 23, 2005
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Just Lost...I am sorry that you are going through this. Phew...have you gone and talked with a Therapist about this? I can completely understand the emotion that you are going through right now. It's a very tough one. I went through it yesterday and thankfully glad that I did not go dump his stuff at HER place. In our situation though, there are many mixed signals and we're both in the grey area and he just wants his peace right now. Unfortunately he's drinking it away and not facing any of the pain that he is in...but he will one day.

In the meantime, I will keep his stuff here, when he finds himself on one side of the fence then he can either get it or come back home...if I will take him. I'm going to continue therapy and stay in the grey area until I know what I WANT!! Right now, I have to concentrate on my motives and learning how to express myself better. That was a problem for us.

So it's best he stay there for now...and we both take a breather. I know it sounds funny. But now our friends are out of my picture and I can see clearer than I have in weeks and at least we are talking. We hadn't done that before.

Best wishes to you honey...one day at a time. Wake up each morning and start it for just today. Don't worry about tomorrow. Just today.

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