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"oh no, not another co/dep thread!!!
November 14, 1999
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Thank you Kitten...you too are doing a great job. Too be raised knowing that no matter what you do or what mistakes you may make...you will always have the love of your parent. Wow! I wish I had been raised that way...maybe then I wouldn't be so hard on myself for blowing it if you know what I mean. Our kids are lucky to have us for parents don't you think??? I do.

November 15, 1999
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Oh, our kids are very lucky! Sometimes I wonder if they know it? I just hope they grow up with better self-esteem so they won't have the relationship problems I've had. Gotta keep lighting those candles!!!

November 15, 1999
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I've been reading all your mail and I must say that I feel the same in so many ways. My Mother has always blamed me for the abuse I suffered from my Father, I'm not allowed to talk about it to her and that is really difficult for me as she is supposed to be my Mother. I guess she will never change, thats hard also, but I am changing for the better and can see things in a different light now. Please take care all of you. Hang on in there, there are people to talk to and who understand. Look forward to hearing from you soon.

November 15, 1999
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I'm still loopy...(cough cough).

I wonder if my mom had given me unconditional positive regard, as Carl Rogers puts it, would I have had less problems in m life? It's the nature/nurture argument, I guess. Or that idea of destiny. Is this the path I was meant to follow?

November 15, 1999
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Wow! You know it's really great to know there's so many others out there with problems similar to mine. I can't believe all these years I've felt I was the only one. It really is inspiring hearing you all talk and work to resolve these difficult situations. My mother never gave me unconditional love. There were always terms to go along with any show of affection. After awhile it got to the point that I didn't even want to try to win her love (if that's what you'd call it). She constantly put me down to bring herself up. Tears, I really liked what you said about giving your family an ultimatum. I may do the same. My mom has done a lot of hurtful things to us, me in particular, and like your brother, my sister is in a state of denial about it all. She thinks that I was just a wild kid and that my mother wasn't that bad, etc., etc. I know I'm not imagining remembering her coming home drunk one night and punching me for falling asleep on the couch with my baby brother. Or hitting me for changing the channel on the t.v. Constantly telling me that I wasn't good enough, that I wouldn't make it in life, all the words she called me that I shouldn't write here. This hurt was real and I REFUSE to pretend it never happened! I have, like you tears, always put the needs of others before my own. I also would rush around tending to everyone else in need so much that I have become numb about my own feelings. This just isn't right. You hold it in too long, well eventually it has to come out. I feel like an emotional roller coaster at times, some days so high, others lower than low... But I know there's hope, especially after hearing from all of you... Thanks.

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