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Not good enough. Well, it's over now
May 21, 2007
9:03 am
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FRAGILE HEART
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We both ended it peacefully.
I just said that we should just be frenz Internally, I felt like we became disinterested in each other physically and emotionally.
I was the one who said it outloud to him.
I got even more upset inside b/c I told him, "You felt the same way and you weren't going to say anything?" He just shrugged his shoulders, no comment.
For those who remember me venting about this relationship years ago.
I finally realized that he felt that I wasn't good enough for him.
You're probably wondering how I would know right? Well, my bf was bold enough to make a smart ass comment directly in my face and think I would not catch on. Well, I did this time and it really sucks to know that the person doesn't think your enough for them.
I felt hurt to know that all this time that I devoted to this relationship was worthless to him. I was never a wife potential to him. I think I was his mother or caretaker or nanny? He would always tell me I was so nice. A good companion. gosh, come to think of it, he must of thought i was his pet dog.
I keep thinking to myself. I must be stupid or love this guy to tolerate such bad behavior.
I know i'm not stupid so I know it was love that guided me. At least the part where they say love is blind. Obviously, I was blinded for 2 years and 9 mo's.
My girl told me i need to heal my heart and let those broken heart feelings be released instead of avoiding the pain and keeping myself so busy that I don't have a moment to have him in my head. Well, thanks for reading this and I really appreciate all the people that would post comments when I was in this toxic relationship. It's over but my heart needs time to heal.
Thank you!

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May 21, 2007
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I don't know your situation as I'm new to this site but I always feel happy when I hear of a woman leaving a unhealthy relationship. It takes a strong woman to set boundaries and stick to them. We get treated the way we allow people to treat us. Ending a going nowhere relationship is difficult but it's even more difficult to stay in my opinion. Good for you!
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May 21, 2007
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Fragile heart,
Take this time to heal your heart and I mean truly heal your heart.
Don't let what this person said to you make you feel sad because if he felt that you was good not enough, then what the hell was he still doing there with you until the end.

Please, the first time that he told you that statement, you should of looked him right in the eyes and told him that "if you don't think that I am good enough for you, then somebody else will" and that he should leave.

You have to think of yourself as a person of worth. If you don't then you are going to set yourself for a big fall if you are banking your self worth by this other person. They will let you down everytime.

And Aqueen is right. If you allow others to treat you badly or you allow them to say hurtful things to you, then that is what you are accepting. You are more then that.
And if he didn't see that, then that is his problem, not yours. And did you really think that he was good enough?
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May 21, 2007
11:18 am
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Fragile heart, Good for you for finally choosing you first and taking care of yourself. I imagine it must be hard for you right now because whether he was good or bad, you have experienced a loss. As it has been suggested, take the time to heal yourself not only from this loss but from the reasons that might have led you to tolerate your ex's behaviour in the first place. Be grateful that by breaking up with him, you have already began to heal yourself. Sending you lots of hugs and healing energy.

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