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Not being a pushover anymore
July 28, 2005
4:44 pm
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jack122064
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I'm feeling agitated. A co-worker who is new really got on my nerves last week. Someone else was on vacation, and this woman chose to take a pissy, arogant attitude with me at one point - we're both student workers, and she has only been here a month. She seemed to think that because our other co-worker (who is full time and higher up) was out, she was in charge of that office.

This woman comes across as all "nice" and everything, but I do not accept being treated like a punk. I have shut her down, and more or less ignore her now.

I got agitated a minute ago because I felt a tinge of sadness when she walked by, like "O, I shouldn't be so mean to someone..." But then I stopped and said "Screw that." So many times in the past I've tried to treat people well, giving them the benefit of the doubt, and giving them WAY to much slack - and then I got pissed on by them.

So I'm done with buying the "nice" BS from people. And I'm done with people walking all over me. I can see people's BS a mile a way, but I am way too generous with them, and they seem to take that as meaning I am naive and can't see the BS. I WAS naive to people, but not anymore. From now on they will have to PROVE that they are "nice" before I "accept" them. Respect and acceptance are EARNED, in my (new) opinion.

This sound familiar to anyone here?

Jack

July 29, 2005
8:32 am
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I'm the same way. All my life I've been nice to everyone because I hate to be rude. Even to people who are being rude to me. I just feel like I'm being mean and I don't want to be mean. But what happens is that people treat you like a doormat when you are too nice. For some reason they think they can step all over you and you will put up with it and sadly enough most of the time we do put up with it.

I know I did, for a long time. I'm the type to always want to make things right. Never want to cause any friction or drama so I hold a lot in.

Till one day someone asked me why it is I don't want to be rude to someone who is plainly being rude to me? For example, a man who may get a little out of line with me se-ually speaking and me not saying anything to him because I don't want to be rude. Well Hello!!!! Isn't HE being rude for getting fresh with me?? Who does he think he is?? Anyway, just an example. You give a person an inch and they will take a mile.

I'm not that nice anymore. I don't even acknowledge people anymore when I first see them unless they acknowledge me first. I say what I really mean now instead of beating around the bush trying to suger coat everything and if you pi$$ me off I'm going to make da-n sure you know about it.

My ex husband used to borrow money from me a lot and would sometimes pay it back but for the most part he wouldn't. He would always be cought in a jam and I would feel sorry for him and for not wanting to be rude would lend him the money. Guess what he gets from me now? "sorry, love to help but you don't pay back and I can't afford it!!"

It's like the saying goes "nice guys finish last" and I firmly believe that!!

July 29, 2005
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I know where you are coming from..i too used to have a coworker who thought she was my boss and was real pushy, she was alot older so i didn't give her a hard time about it, then she kept being pushy, etc...so finally i stood up for myself and told her that she is not my boss, and stop telling me what to do....this floored her, and she got an attitude, but thereafter she never messed with me.

July 29, 2005
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i got to that point in my life, where i got tired of being walked all over to, it just now sometimes i cant stop,sometimes iam to strait forward, or rude even, i dont mean to be, but i stopped caring about what people thought, basically my mother in law, she drives me nuts. she used to be so mean to me. but she do it in this sweet little tone, and i would just take it let her walk all over me. not any more i bet she wishes that sweet girl would come back now. haha

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