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No support in wanting to write a book
July 22, 2005
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Randomwomen2
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I would realy like to write a book about what i have gone through. I realise that it will not be ment for every one but i think i have the right to be heard. I know I am a survivor and i want to write about it but my family does not support me in my efforts I wish that they did my dad does how ever he has info that i need and i realy want to write it all down. what do you think?

July 22, 2005
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Go for it. It is your story and if you feel a need to tell it, then I think you should. At least start writing, you can decide at a later time if that is enough for you or if you do want to share it. You don't have to make a decision today, but go ahead and start writing.

"Words dazzle and deceive because they are mimed by the face. But black words on white paper are the soul laid bare." -- Guy de Maupassant

July 22, 2005
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go for it...you do not need anyone's approval to do so. do what is in your heart, and it will help someone who has gone through the same thing.

July 22, 2005
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Well looks like you have at least 3 votes of support here...go for it! Dont let anyone stand in the way of your dreams. Woulda, shoulda coulda's are killers...if it is something in your heart that you need and want to express..do it. Writing is very theraputic stuff and even if not one other person sees it...it may help you in more ways than you know to see your story in black and white. The fact that you want to touch others lives thru your own struggles is a beautiful thing. Dont let anything hold you back. Good luck!

July 22, 2005
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RW2, don't wait on support. If you need to do this, don't even discuss it with them. Just do it. When you can't sleep, when your kids are sleeping, just write. From what you've told us about your home life, the support that you would need like somebody sharing your load of housework and chld care duties just isn't going to happen right now. You just have to do what you need to do.

By the way, is your husband still going to counselling?

July 22, 2005
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good support here i agree!!!

just a small suggestion to perhaps help:

just start writing...write and write and write, and then go back and organize it.

wow R2...very exciting!!!

July 22, 2005
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Yes, write your book!

July 22, 2005
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There are many books out there to guide you about writing a book as well as how to go about writing your family history. It has been suggested, that when you write your first book, that you don't really share it, or say you are wtriting it . Sorry, cannot recall the rationale behind that one.

But if you do declare you are writing a family history, sort of like a journal, then perhaps your father may open up a bit more willingly about it. It is really scary when people think you may write about them, about having some protected secrets revealed and have their lives in print for the world to view. For instance, the annonminity here is sort of like a safe guard for us.

Imagine if we could not erase many things we have posted here and it was widespread without us allowing it. Just to keep that in mind, you do not want to hurt those you write about and perhaps change the names if it is a novel of fiction.

Finding Your Roots...How to trace your Ancestors at Home and Abroead by Jeane Eddy Westin was a total waste of my money.

You Can Write Your Family History by Sharon DeBartolo Carmack, is a good beggineer's chalk full of how to take notes, transition the stories and what type of family history you will write.

Another book is: The Writer's Idea Book by Jack Heffron.

July 22, 2005
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Writing for yourself and just doing it because the desire is their I think is key for you. It is like writing poetry or drawing; you just have to do it, and for yourself.

You do not need their approval, nor their validation to do it! Repeat, repeat...

When I tried to prove and please my mom that I could achieve well in my career, I never pleased her, or she never said so. I met all my goals in my career, worked at the highest level I could go in the nursing home setting and still she was not pleased nor impressed.

When I realized it was for me, I was better off. Heck, I finally realized if I was president, she would not be pleased.

Then I realized, that even if I was God, she wouldn't be happy. Know why? Cuz none of us are always pleased with God or our Higher Power.

That was the light bulb to wake me up. You have to search inside of YOU, to what drives YOU and then go with it. Once you do, you will be much happier!!

The best to you,

Sew

July 22, 2005
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Hey Random ~

I think a book is a great ideal. I think you could help women that have had similar experiences and show them that there is hope and that you can survive.

Melody Beattie is the author that writes so many codependency books. If you go on her website, http://www.melodybeattie.com, she has a section dedicated to helping people learn to write. The page is called "The Muse". She also has writers work shops and cd's you can buy to learn how to get started.

Also, at the Library, you can find a lot of books on how to write. They tell you how to get started, what styles to use, and they list other resources that will aid in your writing.

I think it's a creative venture that will also help in your healing journey. I wish you the best of luck!!!

t

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