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no more anger, please
August 8, 2000
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i have been a very angry person for a long time. i am in my early 20's. sometimes i get so angry that i fly into these blind rages where i throw stuff, kick things, breakthings, scream and hollar. i have been in rehab and several types of counciling, but stopped going when the talk of medication came up. right now i am in a point in my life where i just can't take it anymore. i have a specific situation that eats at me all the time and no matter how good things are going, all i have to do is think of this and it sucks me back down again...
i lived with my college roomate for 3 years. we became very close and a sexual relationship evloved, but all the while i was seeing my fiancee. it was the first time being with another woman for both of us. after college, she started seeing my brother. i never thought that they could fall in love, but they did. when her and i were "friends" all i could do was brag about my brother (because he is an awesome person) and my family - so i feel like she played alond with this, and when i was not around, she jumped in and took these things from me. now, i really really hate her, the problem is this: my brother and i are the closest people in our family. we've been thru alot - our childhood was pretty rough. when he brings it up, all i can do is scream and hollar and go crazy. and we live so far apart. if i could just not be angry, everything would be okay. he just wants to be happy and i want him to be happy. i just can't belive that he loves this person. i feel that if my freindship (+) was so important to her, she would have never did this to me. i am in a great relationship and my brother deserves the same happiness i have. with this whole jerry springer story aside, how can i get rid of this anger so my brother can be happy and so i don't have to lug it around with me anymore?

August 16, 2000
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dearest mp3
i am in my early 20s, too, and i am just now realizing that anger is a very healthy emotion. and when we try to contain it, it begins to overwhelm us. so let it out! but let it out in a productive way that helps you to feel good about yourself. write it out. sing. exercise. go to an open field and scream it out. run. paint. join a gym. meditate. whatever works for you. and what works once may not work the next time, but don't stop investing time in yourself. in your message you wrote, "if i could just not be angry, everything would be okay." this is not your fault. you were hurt. that's understandable. you're angry. that's okay. we need to stop feeling ashamed of our emotions. anger is healthy. and once we recognize anger as that emotion, and accept it, then maybe we can learn to detatch ourselves from it. "yes, that is anger. and i recognize it as being anger. but that does not make me an angry person. that anger does not control me. i will turn this anger into energy." and maybe you will eventually be able to set your anger down by the riverside and watch it drift away.
best of luck to you.

August 30, 2000
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Dear Mp3. Im kinda younger then you are but understand the dangers of being angry with people, especally myself. If there is something that you enjoy doing to vent, like writing , drawing or going out for a walk, then do it. Its good to let your anger out and do something that will help you and those aorund you. I personally try and write things down, like a story or a journal. The last 'anger' journal I kept I burned at the end of school. This was my way atleast of letting go of all my frustrations. I hope that you can find a way to let it out and keep from ebing over stressed. Good luck
-Shin

September 1, 2000
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September 1, 2000
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You have anger inside that goes a long way back as you said. Unless you get counseling and deal with that anger, you will always have a problem with uncontrolled anger and it will harm the persons you love the most. You cannot bury it. You must bring it out to a trusted person and deal with it. Your anger deep inside with not go away until you do this. For your sake please get some help. God bless you.

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