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10:43 pm
September 24, 2010
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I know it's only Sunday evening, but it's Monday somewhere already! 🙂
Just needed to get an early start.
Here's hoping that all of us can survive MOnday without making contact.
12:42 am
September 30, 2010
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what is all of this about no contact monday and stuff. what does it mean? i tried figuring it out by reading the no contact thursday thread but i still dont get it~ goddess
12:50 am
September 27, 2010
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I'm signing up now!
But this Tuesday, I have to fly back "home" for my 5th (?) pre-trial! So guess I will have to face my 'deamons' on Friday! Ouch,,,,,
They never give up trying to have that 'power' over us, do they?
8:05 am
September 27, 2010
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I'll sign up for THIS one. There is safety in numbers!!!
Mine decided to call and cuss me out this a.m.(before work at 6 a.m), (unfortunately, I TOOK the call to begin with), so I hung up and now NO MORE CONTACT!
P4
8:38 am
September 27, 2010
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Well, this is an easy one for me because I have a restraining order stating that my STBX cannot contact me except by email, and he hasn't emailed me in two weeks. I think he realizes he can't control me anymore, so he's moved on to others (unfortunately, my 14 year old son).
For those of you who need encouragement to stay strong....I'll be thinking about you. It's hard, but it's worth it. Stand your ground, and keep your distance.
9:05 am
September 24, 2010
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I'm in for Day 14. Heard something good at an AA meeting last night, which the speaker pertained to drinking, but I took it as a relationship with my ex. Here it is:
I was like a dog screwing a skunk
I never got all I wanted,
but I sure had all I could stand.
Hope that helps us all to have no contact again! I'm rooting for us.
Have a good day everyone.
10:33 am
September 24, 2010
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Sign me up, how about forever no contact?
10:35 am
September 24, 2010
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Hey Everyone,
It's Monday morning and I'm dreading it. Either way I'm going to be hurt today. If he does write, it will be somehting I don't want to hear; and if he doesn't I'll be disappointed.
But I'm trying to think positive thoughts i.e. "I don't need him"; "all he does is hurt me"; I need to stay strong and let go".
I can do this - I can do this - I can do this...
10:36 am
September 24, 2010
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Good morning Aces,
LOL...I like that idea a lot. Let's start one for tomorrow 🙂
How have things been going with you? Have you been able to stay away?
11:05 am
September 27, 2010
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ok ill try my best, cell phone is dead but i cant keep him from calling at work.
should have never gone over there this weekend. my daughter got lice from my neice. NO GOOD.
11:08 am
September 27, 2010
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me too me too me too!
11:42 am
September 24, 2010
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I'm in for sure.....I am so so sick of the ass......
11:46 am
September 24, 2010
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starryslp,
Did something else happen?
11:59 am
September 27, 2010
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I'm in today - am not going to see him tonight and will not call him, check his emails or anything today. He's confused about his feelings these days towards me and his wife and so I will let him have his space, deal with it and try my best to not control it because I know I can't anyway.
12:03 pm
September 24, 2010
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You hang in there dustygirl - giving him space is probably a very good idea. And you're absolutely right - You can't control him. Now if only I could learn that about my ex...lol
I feel so weak sometimes. My intellectual side tells me to move on.....he's playing games.....my emotional side still pines for him. Arrrrrrgh!!!!!
12:05 pm
September 24, 2010
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How does this no contact Monday work?
12:14 pm
September 24, 2010
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Workman,
This thread is simply taking things one day at a time. It's meant for encouragement not to contact your g/f, b/f, etc. if you are trying to let go but can't.
It gives encouragement to stay away from toxic relationships.
12:26 pm
September 24, 2010
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Thank you .. Hurts so bad
My only problem is that i have 2 kids.
12:31 pm
September 27, 2010
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Hurts so Bad - I know the feeling. Everything tells me the leave, run as fast as I can. He's just using me until he can figure out what he wants or if his wife is willing to reconcile.
He needs space - LOTS OF IT - but I am afraid that if I give it too him, he'll be gone - but then he was never mine to begin with.
I got a speeding ticket on the way in to work today, from his house and so I am not only frustrated with him, but really mad at myself as I should have been home last night.
12:34 pm
September 24, 2010
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Boy do I know that feeling dustygirl.
I sometimes think that if I stop contact, he'll forget about me. But then again, I remember a saying someone on here had taped to her computer (sorry can't remember who it was) that said "How can I miss you if you don't go away?"
Who knows which train of thought is right.
You hang in there today. I will try to do the same. So far no word from him.
12:45 pm
September 24, 2010
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I haven't been able to start the no contact yet, but I read these threads in hope to absorb some of all of your strength to help me be able to do it one day soon.
I heard this song during lunch and I thought you all would like to read the lyrics....it's by Brooks and Dunn...the title is "It's Getting Better All The Time"
I don't stop breathing every time the phone rings
My heart don't race when someones at my door
I've almost given up thinkin' your ever gonna call
I don't believe in magic anymore
I just don't lie awake at night
Asking God would get you off my mind
It's getting better all the time
It's getting better all the time
Yeah, I got to work on time again this morning
This old job is all that I got to live
And no one even noticed I'd been crying
At least I don't have whisky on my breath
Yeah, I think I'm gonna make it
'Cause God won't make a mountain I can't climb
It's getting better all the time
It's getting better all the time
God, I hope your happy
Girl, I wish you well
I just might get over you
You can never tell
I always thought that I'd do something crazy
If ever saw you out with someone else
But when the moment came last night
I couldn't say a word, I stood there in the dark all by myself
Yeah, I could of said a million things
All I did was keep it locked inside
It's getting better all the time
It's getting better all the time
It's getting better all the time
12:51 pm
September 24, 2010
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Great lyrics....i'll have to print this out.
You can join on here anyway. Most of us here have faltered and contacted him/her. The point of this thread is to give each other encouragement NOT to contact. But if you do, we're here for you just the same. We just try harder the next day 🙂
12:55 pm
September 24, 2010
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Thanks Hurts...but every time I try I seem to fail so I guess I must not really want to try yet.
12:58 pm
September 24, 2010
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allwaysconfused,
I can't begin to tell you how many times I have failed. The key is to keep trying....one day at a time.
We're all here for you.
1:08 pm
September 30, 2010
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Hi goddess,
I've only been around a short while, but ever day I see these strings of posts re: no contact. I think I've figured it out--it's a bunch of women (maybe men, too) who are supporting each other to stay away from abusive ex partners.
There can be a powerful draw back into toxic relationships. Each relationship is a mixture of toxic and nurture. We try and hope for more nurture...but sometimes swallow a lot of toxic to get the good. I'm rambling here now, but anyway I think that's what the thing is.
Way to go, y'all! Hang in.
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