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No contact for 10 weeks (or 70 days)!!!!
November 2, 2005
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After reading the thread "What happens after you let go?" posted by KC30, I stopped for the first time in weeks and counted the weeks that it had been since I had spoken to my ex. 10 entire weeks today. 10 weeks x 7 days in each week = 70 days! Go me! I have yet to miss him or want to talk to him. I still harber resentment for things that are at his house that are my belongings which he was supposed to bring over and leave under my carport (Most of the items are in his shed and "he would have to get in there and find them when he cleaned it out." Even this past weekend I found out my vet sent my annual postcard reminder it was time for 5 1/2 year old dog's vaccinations. I got pissed that he didn't send it to me or return it to sender. He knows I love my dog! He is a pet person and knew that I was very good at getting shots, give Heartguard, etc. Of course, the bottom of the rage is his total lack of not giving a damn about "my stuff" in general but I am just thankful today that I don't miss him and am living my life for me.

No longer do I have to deal with:

1. My clothes smelling like smoke all the time. He was a minimum 4 pack a day smoker.

2. Trying to sit in a restaurant and have smoke smother me. I'm a non-smoker and he was not courteous of keeping the smoke out of my face.

3. Having a clean house unless either I mess it up or my dog does rather than living with inches of dust that didn't seem to bother him when we lived together at his house.

4. Living in MY house.

5. Being able to go out in public and speak to my male friends without having to catch hell when I got home because he was always so jealous of me.

6. No longer walking into the house and having the smell of the awful smell of the litterbox from his two cats because he hadn't emptied it for 7+ days.

7. Not having to be around a moody drunk all the time and feel like I was living on his shirt tail, doing what he wanted, when he wanted, just to keep peace.

8. Laying in bed alone and it being okay. Before, when I'd lay in bed with him, I'd feel alone because he used intimacy (or lack thereof) as a means of control.

9. Rarely ever having to take Valium. Where with him it was very often just to deal with every day home life with him. I'm not talking about fighting days, just the walking on egg shell feeling you get just waiting for something to happen.

10. Having to look in the mirror and hating the person I had become, having given up "me" and a lot of my lifetime beliefs, morals and lifestyle. (This is the best part!!!)

In other words, it is possible to move on. I still have issues to work on within myself but at least I am spending the energy working on someone worthwhile - ME!!!

November 2, 2005
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That is definitely inspiring!

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