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no communication, no chance
November 24, 2006
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She left for work tonight, to teach yoga, and said to me.." do you want me to tell Mke you said hello?" Who is mike I asked.. Oh, it is my ex, and last weekend he came into say hello, he might come in tonight. She keeps trying to make me jealous. She constantly has her eyes on every guy. She is my fiance. Sometimes she will tell me this guy hit on her and that guy. Other things have happened as well. I told her that I love her very much, and that I would never leave her.. she still does it. She is my fiance, she still does it. When I lived on my own this shit never happened. Maybe I am being to nice? The last guy she dated was mean to her, blew her off, abused her. She dated him for five years. I knew it might not work with her, because I am not that wayelf right...

The strange thing about this scenario is that it always happens after we have a great day, or night. We had the night before a great Thanksgiving. I never know what to expect from one day to the next. She is disrespectful, manipulating, and has anger issues. I write this because I need to ask... She is 42, do you think there is a chance that she could change back to the way she was when I first met her? She is hard to comunicate with. How could I go about telling her that because she grew up in an alcoholic home she has been very damaged, and that therapy would be great for her? She once told me that she didnt need therapy, she was fine.

She is very rebillious at age 42... Is it possible to make this work.

Thank You... DMS

November 24, 2006
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Well maybe if she doesnt think she needs counseling maybe you can convince her that it would be a good idea for the two of you to get counseling. Its a good idea before marrige anyway. Maybe if you can get her to do that then she will see what she is doing. It sounds to me that she is very insucure

November 24, 2006
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Oh dude, I just got out of a relationship from a "no communication" relationship. I always tried to talk to her and Nada would happen. It was so frustrating because no matter what I said, she turned it back on me. I kept telling her that I was falling in love with her but nothing ever changed. We would talk, but it just kept coming back on me, it was my fault all the time. Then one day I stopped answering her calls and that I told her I don't want to see her anymore. Wow, did that wake her ass up, but it was too late for me. I wanted no part in her. I have been going to therapy for almost 2 yrs now and realized I was just in a unhealthy relationship. Its not worth the "no communication" to drain yourself trying to make things better. Its up to her to change. You can't change her. If you were smart, you don't get married to this woman. You 2 have to find that happy medium. Sounds like she needs to find who she is first. Just don't do the marriage yet. Your not in love, your in lust right now. True love is communication, being yourself, being herself, being you 2 together. There is no togetherness quite yet. Give it some time, maybe it will work, but she has to work at it to. DON'T GET MARRIED and be that 60% divorce rate right now. Work it out and work together. Dude, you might have to bail on this one. No communication is a RED FLAG!!

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