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newly divorced it's been 24 hours
March 17, 2005
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I divorced my husband yesterday for being abusive for the past five years. In the past two weeks he has been changing. He hasn't worked more then 30 days straight at one job since we've been married and now he's been on this new job for 2 1/2 weeks. He's been staying home and when I went to court yesterday I ended it all. He wasn't even there, he was working. Now I am upset for not giving him that last chance 2 change

March 17, 2005
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Sometimes the only way people change is because they have no choice but to. He doesn't have you anymore so he has take make a living some how right? Give it time, like you said its only been 24 hours.

March 17, 2005
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Keep remembering why you left. If you went through the whole divorce process then it sounds like you gave him more than enough chances. Try to be strong... Maybe he will change, and maybe this was the swift kick in the behind that he needed. Its time to focus on yourself now. You will get through this and you will be much happier in the long run. Keep your head up. *hugs*

March 17, 2005
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you're upset? for not giving him a chance to change things? did u get an insta divorce? was it like u walked in and got divorced yesterday? no serving papers? no hiring lawyers? no signing stuff? nothing? how many chances does he need?

March 17, 2005
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You did the right thing. Keep telling yourself that...

March 17, 2005
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I started the process of divorce last october and it was free through a local aid service. I have givien him so many chances and now I'm thinking if this time really would of been it. I know over and over I hear this is it but is it wrong to think that if he sought professional help and demostrated it, that I could then re-marry him

March 18, 2005
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Man, I can't imagine not showing up for your own divorce.

If he has a record of an abusive relationship towards you over the last five years and only 30 day of continuos work, what are the foundations of believing that he has changed in only two and one half weeks?
Do yourself a favor and give it a good six months to determine if he can show you a proven track record of self-improvment.

Sounds like you still love him or are feeling down over the finality of the divorce or both. In either event, your feelings are very mormal, I think.
Don't let you love pull you back into a bad relationship and as stated, give it some time.

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