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NEWBIE-Same Stuff - Need Advice
January 16, 2007
6:34 pm
Tiger Trainer
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Wow you have been through a lot. I guess you start with you. What do you want? What are you willing to change, to fight for? What are you like as a person?

January 16, 2007
7:04 pm
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I sounds as though she really loves and respects you, but just feels as though she needs the freedom to find whatever it is that she feels is missing.

Honestly, I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who felt the drive to explore options outside the marriage. Whether she's in the marriage or not, that desire is still going to be there... and that can't be healthy for you or your relationship. You may have to just let her go, and move on with your life. You've done everything possible to mend the marriage, and even rediscovered a very comfortable friendship where you can share feelings opennly. Good HAS come out of this, but it may be time for everyone to move on. She sounds like someone with whom you'll always have a friendship - and that's a really healthy thing. Continue to go to counseling on your own, if you do come to the conclusion that you've exhausted all resources and its time to move on. It will help you to get through the self esteem issues as well as the initial steps in moving forward on your own. There are lots and lots of doors that open and close in our lives, and when a door closes, we need to grieve and get ready for the next door to open. And another door ALWAYS opens. You'll live through this.

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