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New Years Olive Branch
December 30, 2005
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I want to apologize to those I ofended on this site. I can be a bit of a firecracker and I guess i get my back up when I feel someone is being difficult or confrontational. But I know that someone may be going through a rough time when they post and that is why it must all be taken with a grain of salt.

So, I am extending an olive branch to anyone that I offended in the hopes of moving into the new year with a fresh start. Specifically, Kathygy, I am sorry. This site has a purpose and it is not to offend or challenge each other in a non-productive way.

I wish you all a very happy and healthy New Year!

Overcome

December 30, 2005
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(((VERY well said)))) and best wishes back to you for a great 2006!!!

December 30, 2005
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(((Overcome)))

Happy New Year!

Love,
Lolli

December 30, 2005
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(((Overcome))) Wow, I am so PROUD of you for setting up a vivid example of kindness and humbleness!

God bless you!!! Have a Happy and Blessed New Year!

(((Hugs)))

December 30, 2005
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thank you, overcome. I appreciate that very much. olive branch accepted.

December 30, 2005
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Overcome:

PLease read my thread,

Just letting you know im ok..

Hope you have a wonderful new year,

was looking for you...

take care...

all my love kasie

December 30, 2005
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Overcome! Very cool! Well said! Happy New Year!

December 30, 2005
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Kasie,

It is ultimately your decision to stay or leave. However, I cannot believe that you are accepting responsibility for the bickering that occured on here.

First and foremost, I crossed the line on several posts. Second, I chose to retaliate a few times instead of taking the higher road. Neither of which cases were influenced by you in any way.

People will disagree on here. I probably will be a smart-azz from time to time. Just people's personalities. However, you are a good person with much to contribute to this board.

...so my olive branch is extended to you....grab it and pull yourself back in here!

December 30, 2005
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Overcome....I am so impressed. Im going to be honest and say you had been reminding me somewhat of my BF, and it made me a little uncomfortable.

But today...reading this post, I am so impressed with what you have said. YOure a man, a genuine man in my eyes. We all make mistakes, say things we shouldnt etc. But for men especially, it seems so much harder to admit when they have been wrong, or someone felt they were wrong.

I have a great deal of respect for you, and look forward to perhaps getting to know you thru the threads on this website.

Snow

December 30, 2005
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I feel a group hug comin' on......

(((((((((GROUP))))))))))

Love,
Lolli

December 30, 2005
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OC, I accept your apology for an insult you gave to me one time, don't even remember exactly what it was now. Please accept mine, as I know I probably came back to you with a blast like I do everyone that I perceive as insults or judgements.

I, like you, would like to extend that olive branch to all of those that I have offended. Because I also become a firecracker when I feel like I'm being confronted, insulted, etc., things that make me feel angry.

Not to minimize the offenses in anyway, however, I think every one of us on here are going through a lot, and sometimes our angry, unattractive side reaps its ugly head. Doesn't make us bad people, just people that are hurting, and on a healthier note, need to learn how to handle our anger better. At least for me. I know that being angry is OK, its how I handle it. People on here have been very kind to me even when I have expressed mean things out of my anger. I want to change that. I'm seeking how to handle anger better as I don't want to hurt people, and I don't think you do either.

Getting our anger out is paramount to our healing process, for me I need to learn to let it out in better forms of communication. I tend to retaliate with the I'll show you type of attitude which doesn't help me or the other person.

Anyways, just happened to open this post, have a blessed day.

December 30, 2005
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loli,

lol! I've never seen that one before (((GROUP))))

December 30, 2005
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Overcome:

Ok, Ok,

I resolve, thank you,

I had no choice i broke down,
Im back against counselors wishes , but screw him!!

IM learning baout feeling responsible, give me some time ok?

right now i think everything is my fault..

I love you, thanks for being here

Kasie

December 30, 2005
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Yeah, that cracked me up too...

((GROUP))

LOL!

OC - cheers, mate - well done!

December 30, 2005
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... ((GROUP)) ...

Just thought I'd throw my arms in too... it's New Years Everyone!

Time to re-commit to focusing on ourselves, & paying attention to what "bugs us" - - what "bugs us" is what counselors call emotional triggers... and our triggers aren't necessarily "about" the person that bugs us, but even if it is somewhat about that person - we can't change them! All we can do is LET THEM KNOW HOW WE FEEL! Tell them we are 'triggered'.

We *can* learn/grow/& change OURSELVES however... that's in our power. And we can react/reach out, from the TRUE PLACE OF LOVE THAT IS IN OUR HEARTS... like what Overcome has done here. That's the ultimate place to be... spreading love. Feels good huh?

When we are emotionally triggered, what this does is clues us in to our own insecurities, fears, and unresolved issues...

... off my box, and into the new year with you all!

Love, SC

December 30, 2005
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Hey,

This thread really is in the spirit of AAC. Thanks for peacemaking guys.

I just hate it when folks go away mad, without a really, really, really good reason.

December 30, 2005
5:27 pm
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Awesome! Look at all the cyber ass grabing I can do now!!! Where is MamaC when we need her.....lol

Seriously though, glad that this thread was well received. There is enough BS in day-to-day life to allow it to spill over into a website that is an otherwise safe haven.

December 30, 2005
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The site coordinator???

Its so funny to me. Thank you for letting me know that I outwitted you.

Not an anger thing, just a truth thing.

December 30, 2005
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SC, thank you for your words of wisdom. This is AWESOME!!!

December 30, 2005
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Overcome, I am so glad to see this, it makes me feel much more comfortable here! I didn't know how to react to hostility with anything but hostility, I've grown up around so much of it, and even being next to it when it wasn't directed at me was really touching a lot of raw nerves and bringing up a lot of fear, discomfort, hurt and anger from the abusive way my family used to speak to me as well as my ex. I was reacting to you in large part out of fear and hurt where you reminded me of something else rather than just letting it be. Here's a little branch of my own, we can only choose how we react and I reacted poorly often here with you in the past few days.

Happy New Year to all, still on partial sebatical myself while I work on some stuff, but I'm definatly reading and will be around more in a bit when I've gotten some stuff sorted out.

December 30, 2005
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Overcome thanks for this. Forgiveness is something I am working on. The power of forgiveness is something I've just learnt about. I can't remember you ever offending me....but I think its just great that you started this thread.

xx,
H.N.Y.2006.

Rev.

December 30, 2005
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Cyber ass???

What a [email protected]! (its before New Years), who would want to give their ass to you? (God, forgive me), AND women aren't just some sexual creature that you can even say that to!!!

You, have got to respect women!! Why do you hate women so much?

No, all insults aside, I would really like to know why you hate women so much???

I would really like to know why you hate women so much.

December 30, 2005
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In fact, I take my apology back.

Why do you hate women???

December 30, 2005
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Mimi......

Is there a reason that you continue to try to provoke Overcome?

He has put himself out there and apologized to everyone that he felt that he offended. And because he makes a joke with someone, an inside type joke between the two of them, btw., that has nothing to do with you, and you pounce and take that opportunity to start another fight.

Perhaps you would have learned that if you communicated in a healthy way and asked him why he said that, instead of being aggressive and attacking him.

You know what happens when we assume......

Lolli

December 30, 2005
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Lolli,

You're right. Thank you for pointing that out.

You're a superior person. I hope that I will someday be just like you.

Please tell me how?

Please, with all my heart, I beg you to tell me how to be like you?

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