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NEW HERE living with an alcoholic
April 14, 2009
8:52 pm
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Brightlights- I am glad that your husband has taken a step towards sobriety. Let us know when he comes home. Does he have plan for his aftercare? Keep your spirits up, take a deep breath and you will get through it one day at a time.

April 14, 2009
9:13 pm
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Ma- I remember when my husband got locked up the last time in 2007. I had no idea what this man was all about. And you explained it all very well to me. As a matter of fact I saved your posts, refered to them often. At first I thought it sounded good. Well, after he got released everything you said was going to happen if I took him back happened. OK then your wisdom suddenly became credible. It happened. I got to the point where I couldnt take it any more and called his PO who violated im for the drinking. This time I didnt give him love and attention. I told him he can consider himself lucky if I was still around when he gets out of prison this time and told him all he had to think about was not picking up another drink. Sure I got the letter about paving the way to where he is. I told him it didnt sound like he was taking responsiblity for his decision to drink. This time I didnt take any calls. I only answered his letters in a matter of fact fashion, no I miss, I love. When I say him at his sentancing he asked me if I missed him and I straight up told him "HELL NO" told him life with him was horrific. Suddenly I lost this fear of loosing him and finally realized I never had him to begin with. There was no relationship for me to miss. Just memories of a man whose brain was soaked in alcohol that was irresponsible, selfish and using me. The best part was while he was working a program he admitted he was an addict and alcoholic, drew a picture of him trapped in a beer bottle. Said I never did anything wrong that he would say that I did so he could run off and have uninterruppted time drinking alone. He said he knew it was causing problems but didnt care cause his brain was numbed with alcohol. He said he wanted to quit but couldnt and was to ashamed to tell me. I still had to get to the part with him as in what was he DOING about his problem. He goes to AA. But, as far as I know that is for aftercare and they need rehab. In the meantime I have reclaimed my life. I keep in light contact with him. I just got a letter that he attended an AA meeting. I still dont hear him using the language of a person who is serious about recovery. He spends 2 hours in church everyday. I havent talked to him about his problem. Since he is in prison he doesnt drink. But, it does seem like the more I work on myself, do well the more he gets motivated to do the same.

Thanks for the update on your neighbor I had no idea what happened. Just knew he wasnt very grateful towards you.

April 15, 2009
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Hi there its me again and i would like to give you a site which you can go to and talk in real-time ...It is an Alanon family group called, Miracles In Progress. I go there and they not only have a chat-room but 2 meetings everyday. You will be able to talk to someone who understands what you are going thru and you will also feel love and support. I hope to see you there, my nick is grammie and i would be happy to talk to you...here is the site,type in.......
the 2nd one listed is MIP..Miracles In Progress..click on it and it will take you to a page in which you can scroll down to the chatroom....walla, your there, all you need is a nick and you can ask any questions you might have. Hope to see you there soon...Love in recovery, Peace4all/grammie

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