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December 31, 2005
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Hi,

I found this site some time ago looking for codependency info. I have been reading the threads for awhile but never felt free to post from work. I now have a home internet connection.

I am just ending a long (4 years), difficult relationship with a man. The relationship has been filled with difficulties for me and is what I consider the unhealthiest (is that a word) relationship I have ever been in!!

I have been in no contact mode for 5 days and already it is getting a little easier, so I will be joining the no contact club!

I am looking forward to a better life, and actually would rather be alone than spend one more day with this man! Finally, something snapped in my mind and I was done, so it does happen to all of you still waiting.

I have the utmost respect for everyone on this site and have gained so much from reading the threads. There are many supportive, kind people here.

So, nice to meet all of you and thanks for being here!

December 31, 2005
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free spirit-welcome to our circle of love. glad to meet you. am sorry about your loss of the relationship. you are right there are alot of very special people on here.

ps. hope u have sense of humour.

happy new years!!

love

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December 31, 2005
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Welcome Free Spirit,

So what made you decide to finally end this bad relationship? What exactly made you realize you were done with it.

 

 

2bHappy

January 1, 2006
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Hi Lost and 2B HAPPY,

Thanks so much for the welcome.

In answer to your question 2B I guess I finally came to the realization that I can live like this for a long time if I choose, but I am not happy and will never be in this situation.

Are you struggling with this as well 2B? Just one week ago I was in the same place I have been all along, and then overnight somehow, something changed. It was not even necessarily one event, just a dawning realization, I guess.

January 1, 2006
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Welcome to our lovely world. This is a good place to be. I have learned so much being here. I have been here since august or september. I have changed or gone through since I have been here. I am in a happier place and still working on a better place. I am glad you are in the no contact club. I am a member and it is good.
Take care-Hurt

January 1, 2006
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Welcome, welcome....I am in the no contact club with my girl for 90 days and its been 21 days already, but we both agreed to do this in order to save our relationship. Its the best thing that I have done. You get to the point and say to yourself, I need time away. We both needed it and it works. I am so happy finding myself right now. And your last relationship, you could call it "TOXIC" instead of unhealthy also....

January 1, 2006
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Hi Free Spirit,

Congratulations on your decision to be happy. I know it is very hard to let go sometimes because of our fears and the hope that the person will change.

I can look back at a lot of relationships that I've let go (kicking and screaming, figuratively) and now that it is the past, I am so happy that I walked away or God took me away from that situation. I've had more heartaches since..but only because of my stubborness in going with the wrong men. This year will be different...I will start with a healthy outlook and really look for dysfunctions in individuals.

 

 

2bHappy

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