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April 15, 2009
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Thank-you everyone for the advice, support, etc. I went to the library this week and checked out Co-Dependent No More. I am keeping a journal of things that I am finding out about myself. I am WAY WAY co-dependent. I still wonder how I got there (here)

I was in an emotionally abusive relationship before and got strong. I wouldn't call my marriage now emotionally abusive at all - we've just had a lot of stressors and I think that we have both resorted back to what is comforting when we each feel insecure. Do you tend to do this forever in times of stress?

I have tried to not be so obsessive, and focus on myself. I feel more at peace than I thought I would! My husband is calling and talking to me more (should be done with calving season SOON). He had Easter with his "fun" family, alcoholic brother included. I didn't even try to call him! I let him call me when he felt ready to, then he told me about his horrible day. (I had a good day with my son, going to church, going out to eat - I didn't rub it in).

Anyway, being new here, I enjoy reading other people's comments, struggles, and inspiration.

April 15, 2009
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April 15, 2009
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(((butterfly kisses))) good for you for taking care of yourself.

As for your commend about resorting back to whatever is comforting when feeling insecure...I think that is a codependent tendency.

I recently started attending CODA meetings. was doing well in my relationships. Setting boundaries, sticking to them. Focusing on me.

It has helped, but I'm by no means functioning at a normal capacity in my relationships. It is a constant battle. I know this. I work at it every day.

You are doing what needs to be done to take care of yourself. Bravo. That's the first step. Hang in there....

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