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NEEDING A FRIEND RIGHT NOW
February 21, 2006
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Good Morning Everyone,
As I sit here this morning, my heart is hurting very badly. I feel like I am ready to throw up my hands in life but I know that I can't.
First of all as a female I am surrounded by nothing but males. My so called boyfriend, I have three sons (grown), and My grandchildren are all boys.
Let me start off with my so called boyfriend, we use to live together but after he left me, we have tried to make a go of our relationship but something is just not right with us. Our relationship goes from one week being happy together to the next week if I don't call him all the time, then now he is breaking up with me and saying mean thing to me.
My sons are grown but when they make choices in there life and things don't go right then they bring me there problems and I just don't want to be in there problems all the time.
My grandsons are who they are, but they are small. I trying to show them what a grandmother really is. We don't have to many big mamma anymore.
My so called boyfriend and children are really making me sick. And I mean my stomach is hurting and getting depress and not being happy anymore. I can't fix all of there problems but they seem to be like, if I don't do want they want then everyone is upset when I am happy.
My boyfriend before he hurted me was my soul mate. My future husband that I had seen before he came into my life. I love him more then any woman can really love a man. After he left me then he wanted to come back into my life but I couldn't live with him again because I didn't trust him. I am angry at him for taking that part of my life from me. I was feeling more as a woman and ready to give that part of myself to him. I don't know how to let go and to figure out what I want in life now. My life so far has been taking care of everyone else but not me. It hurt's to let go but I don't know how. I don't want to become bitter about life because I want to enjoy life while I still have life on this earth. I am hurting because I have been doing this for so long on my own, being a single mother, raising my sons, taking care of the household, when does a person ever get a break in life to where as you get older all the bulls*** will end. I am a good woman. I have my faults like everyone else but it is so hard sometimes that I just don't know what else to do. Please someone give me some answers because I don't know who to turn to and I don't have any real friends. Everyone life seem life it is going ok for them. I just need a friend right now.

February 21, 2006
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Dearest Nappy I feel for you honey .but like I tell everyone including myself who is suffering the same fate as you please look up letting go the best explanation I ever read it's by Bill Fergerson and its right here on our very close nit site remember you have a friend in me let me know how you feel after reading Bills thread Good luck Nappy Bone T

February 21, 2006
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I had tried to find it but I can't. I know that I need to really talk to god about things. But really on how to let things go.
Why do people hurt other and then there life goes on like nothing ever happen?
I don't understand but I am tired of going through that part of my life. I am always sad and the other person is around here skipping.

February 21, 2006
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Nappy look to the left of the screen and type in letting go I belive there are 2 the one you should read is the one from Bill fergerson it posted on1-24-2006 or ask the site for help in locating this very valuable piece of info.

February 21, 2006
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hi there, boy are we twins or what!
i have 4 adult daughters (only 2 live close) i have been through hell with my oldest. she was hooked on vicadine and got herself in trouble in 3 states. she is doing real good now. she will be done in dec. and i have been by her side through it all financially. had to drive her 1500 miles to another state to transfer her probation, when she was in rehab, i had to buy everything for her cause she was transported from another state with just the clothes on her back, i have always been a very over protective mom and i try to always be there if they need me. but that is no longer the issue that makes us alike.
if you read my first thread, you will see. i don't want to write it over. i just don't understand why i am so depressed and i feel as you do and i am just so tired of life. i oded once in my 20s because i was mad not that i wanted to die and it is really scarry. my dr. said i was suisidal but it was not pre meditated cause i would do it in a rage. i bet a lot of people have done that. of course when i am driving i have thoughts of pulling out in traffice and stuff but i don't think i would do that. now i just found out that my one daughter have rhumitoid arthritis and she is only 31 and has 4 boys. how much more can i take. i too have been having chest pains all day and i can't eat i can't hardly breath. i wish i could help you. i feel your pain. love trish

February 21, 2006
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Hi, Sunshinetrisha,
I'm sorry that you are going through all those things, I do understand. Almost the same things with my son or sons. But after reading Letting GO. I decided that I am going to have to. Not stop loving my sons or family but to let go of the things that I can not change. I feel better knowing that at least I gave it my best when trying to talk with my sons. Trying to help them but realize that they are going to do what they want to do in life anyway. I was sick at one time because of stress and I don't want to be in the hospital ever again over stress.

Bone-T,
Thank you for telling me to read LETTING GO. I have printed it and will read it everyday until I get the hang of it. I always knew that Letting go didn't mean my action but what is in my heart. I will always love my sons but I know that my relationship with my so called boyfriend might be over with. I don't know. It is funny how when we get into one of these weeks where things are not going good, it if him that is always letting me go. I don't give up that easy but I feel that this time, it will be me to let go of the relationship and to really see what I want in life. I still do love him and will always love him but I have to take care of myself. It's funny how being with him I didn't gain any weight. Now since we are really not together, I have put on a couple of pounds and I feel great. I know that one day I will see him again but I know that I will be strong and able to keep my head up and smile.
It is so wonderful to be here on this site. It has really help me a lot and I know that I have a long way to go but I will get there. With god help.

February 21, 2006
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Nappy glad you found what i told you to look for read it every day and whatever you get from it it will be well worth it good luck Nappy Bone T

February 21, 2006
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i hope you will soon feel better! be strong, you can pull through this.

February 22, 2006
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Good Evening, Bone T
Thank you very much. I have started reading it everyday and it make a lot of sense. I feel better already. After reading the message "LETTING GO", I realize that I was holding on to hurt that I should of let go aloooooong time ago. It really made me realize that holding all this hurt was only making me sad, angry, confuse and all of the other emotions that comes along with it.
I'm not saying that I am cured, but I know that today was a very happy day for me, and I will be reading letting go everyday just like the bible.
I realize that the reason my boyfriend is always letting go is because he is really scared. I had to really realize that he is human and he has feeling also. I told him that I wanted at least a month of separation from him, no calling, no coming to my home, no dates, no nothing. I told my sons that they are going to have to solve there problems that they created on there own. I will be there for them but not always helping them out of situation that they put themself in. I realize that they wanted me to fix there problems and I just can't. I have to fix myself first. My main concern is my grandchildren because they are helpless and guess what. My second son just had his second baby and it is a "GIRL"

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