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need some good advice
December 26, 2003
1:03 pm
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Hi, I've been going over this in my head for quite awhile, and still have not come up with any thing that will help me to mentally or emotionally handle this problem. Last October, my alcoholic other and I ended the relationship, so I have not had contact with him since then, and really don't want to. On the other hand, at the end of the summer I was financially strapped for cash, and had to ask him for a loan. He did lend me the money and I was in the process of paying him back. After a 12 year relationship I thought that it would be ok to ask, but after that, he made me feel as if I was !!!****** I really was quite pissed that he had to look at it that way, especially after we had been together so long, I had hoped that I would of meant more to him. I,m not the kind of person to usually ask for help, and I was not feeling very good about having to ask in the first place. I did " know" that I was going to repay the debt, if only for the fact that I was in love with him. Now i feel at this time that I need to be taking care of myself and not worrying about such an anal person who doesn't trust in me after all this time. My girlfriend told me to send him $5.00 amonth, but right now I'm not in to having any contact with him at all. My "Line has been drawn in the sand", so to speak. I still care about him, but I am not going to go against myself anymore. I realise I owe him the money, but I'm not willing to pay him at this time!!! Can anyone give me some advice on this. I'm feeling guilty, but also my self presevation is very important to me at this time. Thanks

December 26, 2003
1:44 pm
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Not wanting contact with some one is one thing and for many reason's is necessary.

Owing money to someone and having the ability to repay is another.

Since you honestly owe this person money, you need to repay it. To not do so is wrong.

However, nothing mandates that you do this in person. Send it via check or money order through the mail, return receipt. That way the debt is repaid, you know he has rec'd it, and you can continue on in your life without having the knowledge of owing money haunt you.


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