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April 7, 2002
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jann
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I married an alcoholic almost 2 years ago who I had known and been involved with off and on for about 25 years. He was sober and attending AA meetings 3 or 4 times a day at that time. He doesn't have to work - lives on a trust fund. Said he had turned his life over to God and seemed happier and healthier than I had ever seen him. About one month after the marriage he began drinking again - trying to hide it, etc. Clean and sober he is a sensitive, loving person. I began to see the old man coming out and was in denial about what was happening. He became more and more abusive and ended up being arrested (again.) Anyway, I filed for divorce, left our home, he begged me to come back, made promises, bla, bla, bla. I drop the divorce proceedings, came home, not too long before the whole senario began again, only worse. Now, he has filed for divorce, is in the house, I moved out again -- says everything will be good again when we get past this obstacle (our marriage!) Says I'm the finest lady in the world, loves me dearly, knows will alaways be together, but just can't live with me.
I've been on an emotional roller coaster for so long -- can someone just give me a little feedback from an unbiased point of view. Thanks so much!

April 8, 2002
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Just like Blondie, I am in recovery also, and hell he isn't going to change anytime soon. If sobriety isn't number one for him he can't be the man you want him to be. For that matter he can't be the person he needs to be for himself. If I was to start drinking again today, I would have to say, I again have put alcohol number one, and to hell with the rest of the world. In my opinion I think you should give him a year in sobriety and if he can't make it, then you know he can't make it in the marriage. We all can say words but can we all show them?

April 8, 2002
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Thank you Blondie and T4C!!! I can't even tell you what an eye-opener your responses were for me. It was like the blinders were taken off. It's amazing how unhealthy you and your way of thinking and reacting become after being in an alcoholic/addictive relationship....I think I was becoming and have been as sick as he is. My hats off to both of you for your strength and honesty. It's been a Godsend for me. I'm sure for many others too, as I read your responses to them. Heres to breathing the fresh air and starting life over!
J-ann

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