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Need some encouragement in 'staying the course'
October 3, 2008
12:44 am
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fantas
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TBT, I think you should mark this day as the day you were born again. Give yourself a gift of some sort and aim to celebrate it every year, just like you do your birthday or other important days. What do ya think?

October 3, 2008
12:46 am
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sd,

Let it go honey.

Just fricking - fracking - let it go already...........

Be fricking DONE WITH IT ALREADY!!!!!!

In the end - it will bring you some much needed relief - and afterall - isn't that truly the name of the game here???????

RELIEF?????????

FOR YOU????????

Cut your losses - dear heart.

Snip. Snap. Gone.

Move on already.

You have NO IDEA what life has in stored for you.....but you have to enter upon it with a light heart - otherwise - just ain't gonna jive is all............

And I am quite sure that you do not wish to be your own enemy - right?

Soooooo - get with the program already girlfriend!!!

Time waits for no one!

October 3, 2008
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Well, tbt, as your thread title says- I'm staying the course, staying away from the family and taking care of myself. Thats all I can do.

As I mentioned above, I haven't spoken to my father in almost a year. I was done a while back and felt as you do now.

sd

October 9, 2008
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If I may step in here: in no way should a drug addict be left any money. My friends dad died and left the money equally to the three of them, and guess what. The sister that was the drug addict took the first 40k and shot it up her arm and was dead 2 months after the dad. All 3 of her children were left with her mom with no money to care for them. They had begged their father to let the other two be the executor of her money. But no, that idiot didnt want her to feel left out, well guess what...she wasnt. Thats what a fricking, dumb butt, co-dependent messed up person does! Was only wanting his daughter to feel good about him when he passed on, didnt give a rip about her, her kids or anyone else left with the aftermath.

Now my sister and I are begging my dad not leave my brother (whos in prison because of his crack addiction) a dime, he has two kids my mom is taking care of. You know what he said 'go down get a lawyer and pay for him/her to draw up the papers. Hes got to be kidding, I am not going to pay for a lawyer, he has plenty of money and is not a child. Besides, how irresponsible of a parent to not take care of their own business. I am sick on these people! My mom too, not a dime of life insurance. Who the heck do they think is going to pay for the funerals. I'm the only one who has money, it is a total crock! I hope they dont mind being cremated!

Oh and by the way, the sister that used her inheritence to shoot 40k worth of heroin up her arm...had been sober and in recovery for 18 months.

October 10, 2008
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fruitloop,

You said:

[Besides, how irresponsible of a parent to not take care of their own business.]

That’s exactly it, THERE OWN BUSINESS. No matter how irrational it may be to you, it is your fathers business who and how he leaves HIS money.

Accepting that fact that its his business to do what he wants with his own money will cut your frustration level way down. You can’t control another person to do anything, wise or stupid it’s there choice.

That one was a hard one for me to accept; my parents do silly and dump things all the time with money. My frustration was stemming from attempting to get them to do smarter things for themselves. I learned to stop and allow others to do as they pleased.

As a daughter I love my parents and want what’s best for them, of course. I have to respect their choices as their own even if I don’t agree with them.

Money is often a trigger for an addict no matter how much sober/clean time they may have had.

I do understand your frustration with your dad; it would make perfect sense for him to leave any inheritance to the children of your brother and not your brother directly. But maybe your dad is not really ready to address the fact his son is an addict and putting something down on paper may be to real for him to deal with at this point.

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

October 12, 2008
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Atalose,
I totally agree with you, its their money and they can do with it what they want. But through my occupation I happen to know a whole lot about estate tax and how relatives can be left with a huge burden when a family member passes on. My dad is in poor health, has smoked pot on a daily basis for 41 years and happens to own a very large farm. Therein lies the problem. My sister and I can only hope that my dad will need all his money and have to sell the farm to take care of his medical needs, because if not, we will be left with a huge tax burden to pay not only for ourselves by my brothers portion too.

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