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need help wife having very bad nightmares!!!!!
December 17, 2012
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ok so my wife of 9 years was abused as a child and had gotten past it and moved on.....just the last couple months our relationship hit some bumps and she cheated on me..... we argued for couple weeks she had emotionally detached from me and wanted to end us she screamed at me and told me to get physical with her and yell back at her. please note(i am not the kind of guy to yell back and or physicaly harm any human) she yelled at me and i broke i pushed her and right away i knew i fu**** up ..... in doing this i realised that in 9 years of a great life together i messed up by pushing her that she would leave me now 🙁  i sat down and cried for a good time prob 3+ hours she gave me her ring back and did not leave.... it has been couple months since that i have forgave her and she has forgiven me we are great now but there is 1 thing that is realy bothering me.....


she has been having reaccuring  nightmares from her childhood sexual assults,  in the dream there is no face the suspect is shadowed untill her last dream she had ,  was shadowed comming into the room where it happened and she fought and begged for suspect to stop,,,, but when he was done he walked to door opened it and she saw a face for the first time and it was MINE???????  why????? what can we do to stop these?????? we are better than we ever have been now!!!!  what could these dreams mean???? is the only way for her to be better to be apart from me? does she need to leave? i feel 100% responsable for these dreams and i am offering any and all my support and letting her know that i am there for her..... what can we do??????  i love her so much and she loves me.   i am willing to do anything even if we need to move on from eachother... she just informed me that she had another dream lastnight that involved same sinerio but i hit her too in dream and she starts out as child and ends up as adult please help!!!!!!!!!! Cry

January 16, 2013
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It might be best to consult a counselor/therapist to analyze better her condition and what could have caused her having nightmares and bad dreams.  Her traumatic experience from the past might be a factor but something may have triggered her state of mind to actually remember the past and kept dreaming about in the present. The best thing you could do for now is to help and support her overcome that. Try to be more sensitive about her feelings or think before you act something that might hurt her physically or emotionally. In order for her to fully recover from that traumatic experience and get rid of the nightmares related to the past, she needs someone who can protect her and the most capable person who could do that is you as her husband. As long as you love each other unconditionally, everything will be fine.

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