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NEED HELP! Sick and tired of being me.
July 1, 2009
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I am constantly told, repeatedly told that I do not listen. Every route I take, every word I hear, every feeling I accept and take into consideration is wrong. No matter which way I do, its never good enough.

I have been through alot this past year. I left an abusive/controling/obsessive relationship. I had met the one person who loves me for me. We've been together now for almost 9 months. It's been a struggle. First of all, I treated her the way that I had been treated in my previous relationship. I was wrong for doing that to her. I admit it and acknowledge it. I was filled with Anger from head to toe and I took alot of it out on her. The past few months I have been working on it ALOT. I never said I was perfect nor did I ever play that part. I have accepted God back into my Life, into my heart. She tells me everyday she has God in her heart yet everything I do, is never good enough. I don't know what to do anymore.

The one thing I do know is I will continue to get well. I will keep God in my heart and continue to heal so that I can fully enjoy life. Even if it has to be without her.

July 1, 2009
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Does she tell you everyday that you are not good enough or are you assuming you are not good enough because she is not acknowledging or validating the things you have been working on these past few months?

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

July 1, 2009
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Hey CoRo,
ARe you sick and tired of people saying your not doing things right or are you truly sick and tired of being who you are?
If you are happy and feel like
you're doing the right thing, then keep on doing it... do it for yourself and not others. because if you try to do things just to make other people happy you may not be making your self happy.

Is she telling you these things or just in general people are telling you these things?

thats the spirit i'm glad you let God back into your heart. i hope things work out for you!

T2H

July 11, 2009
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Thanks guys and or gals. She tells me everytime that I don't listen to her. That I have no compassion for her.

I am happy with myself and the work I have done to help myself become a better person.

She tells me that I need to put her first. All the counseling, treatment and books I have read all tell me that I need to put myself first before I can be there for anyone else. Is this right?? Or is it wrong??

I find myself thanking God more and more for being a part of my Life. It feels good to know that he is with me.

July 11, 2009
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First off, word of caution, we really can't discuss God or a Higher Power on this side. Some people abused it a while back and beat people over the head with religion.

That being said, I live by the rule, Love thy neighbor, as thyself. Well you can take this one of two ways. You treat yourself like crap and treat your neighbor like crap or you learn to love yourself THEN you love your neighbor like that.

Yes in a good healthy marriage you are to put your wife first, but you have to love yourself enough FIRST to be able to do it.

Bitsy

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