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September 22, 2000
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mikelin
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I need someone who can see from a distance what I am doing to myself. I have been married for 24 years, most of it not too good. But the past few years it has been better.
My problem is that I don't love my husband but want someone else, who I don't even know well. Why would I do this? It is driving me nuts that I'm not a stronger person emotionally. I should say we have a teenager who has made it easier to be so unstable. He can be very abusive. His dad, my husband, was the first 20 years of our marriage. Any advice?

September 22, 2000
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The grass is allways greener on the other side. Don't throw away 24yrs. on some man you hardly know.

Look back on your marriage, see where, when, why, & how you and your husband feel out-of-love. Then try to mend it.

It's worth that much, isn't it? I bet your son would think so.

Once you've crossed over(so to speak) it's hard, hard, hard to get that trust back, even with the 24yrs. under your belt.

September 22, 2000
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Once you ring the bell, you can't unring it. Sounds like midlife crisis to me, the old is this all there is? Could be depression, menopause, too. See an M.D. get a physical, and see a counselor before you do something impulsive, which could cost more than you could imagine. Because of the cost of breaking a committment, I sooooo believe in committment. for better or worse remember, talk to him, enroll him in your frustration, aske him to work with you. If you have been married for 24 years, you have no idea how hard it is out there to start over, what might appear sweet, is truly bittersweet, and like okie says the grass always looks greener, and it could be paint.

September 22, 2000
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24 years, there must be something there, I know I left my husband of two years. Boy do I regret it I'm trying to get back with him now as we speak. Once you lose what you got its so very hard to get it back hold on to the truth is what I've been learning follow your heart don't listen to you brain.

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