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Need advice please!!!!
December 28, 2000
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jewels21tx
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I am 21 now and when I was 16 my mom was diagnosed with aml (leukemia) she had to go to a hospital in houston (5 hours away from home) while she was there i had to stay with her parents, and my parents would call and act as if they were on some sort of vacation when what was really happening was my mother was on the brink of death. I have been going to counseling for about 3 months now but since this has happened i stopped crying no matter what i never cry now because i felt as if i had to be strong so pushing things down and away has made it where i dont cry now. Now after 3 months i am finally able to talk about this situation that happened but still cant cry and dont know why. Any help or suggestions would be appreciated...Thanks

December 29, 2000
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Thereis a lot of information missing from your request. Trying to read between the lines but there is nothing that jumps out at me and slaps me in the face.What are the counseling sessions for,ifImay ask?Could it be that you may have some sort of anti-social problem? What has the counselor told you?Please give us a little bit more history so we can properly give you the best advise that we can. God BLess

December 29, 2000
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Crying is seen as an outlet for feelings but....it is not NECESSARY to cry to have feelings.

I rarely dry yet have intense feelings of love, dislike etc.

Perhaps due to the seriousness of your mother's illness you felt you have had to distance yourself from the pain ofher illness and resentment of how they made things look while they were gone.

Perhaps unconciously you don't cry becasue you don't feel they need to protect you anymore.

Whatever...if you feel this is really bugging you see your pastor or a counselor at school. OR a trusted friend.

Don't feel you are strange because you don't cry..we all handle issues differently.

December 29, 2000
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Jewel,

how are you now, and how is your mother, did she survive until now? Cancer in the family is tough because it confronts us all with our worst fears. I think that your parents tried to protect you then, but you must have taken it as a lack of trust. Try to forgive your parents for their weakness - they didn't dare to face all their fears then.
My sister had surgery for a mammary tumor last year - she doens't like to talk about it and gets very defensive when I ask her about how she feels. Thats her way of coping.
Take care, eve

December 29, 2000
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I think you are emotionally blocked. Trust, pain, shock, all at one tough to handle. I was blocked for years, never cried at anything. today I cry at the drop of a hat, be greatful that you don't have the swollen eyes. You're ok, process things with the counselor, and keep on. You got scared and reacted, you were lied to and reacted, it takes time, and you will be ok.

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