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May 29, 2005
1:12 pm
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Hi. As you may know, I broke up w/ my boyfriend Tim. He has been abusive,manipulative,and self centered for the past 2 years that i have spent with him. i have suffered and begged him to be nice but i now know that is what he wanted. he loved me crying over him. it was his sick way of feeling loved. i hate him now . i want him to be punished for everything. he has been mentally physically and emotionally abusive. we are both 16 and in highschool. the teachers and even the principals hate him. they hate the way he treats me and everyone at school hates him for it. the people who dont hate him hate me. they beleive his manipulations. Anyways, we broke up because there was an incident a week ago where he had other girls on his cell so i asked to see it. he refused to show me so i tried grabbing the phone. he pulled away and kicked me as hard as he could with Steel toe boOts, right in my shin. i was limping for 2 days and left with a huge indent in my leg. i showed the phys. ed teacher and my health teacher and a few peers. only because i was in so much pain. so now we arent together because everyone knows he hurts me. His father doesnt even seem to care about it. his father is also a very abusive man ...and was towards his mother. i can see it in him. his father actually rewarded him! he bought him a car! tim doesnt know he was wrong he says im crazy and stupid. he accuses me of making it up. My parents told me that i have an option of pressing charges. They say that i could get this on his permanent record,, because i have pictures and witnesses. all i have to do is talk to the principle (shes on my side anyways) and get him arrested. i want him to know how hes hurt me. i want him to always remember the pain he put me thru.... am i right to report him? or should i let other girls go thru what i went thru with him? i want to tell,but im kind of afraid im being a bully.... what do i do?????

May 29, 2005
3:34 pm
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Well, you did screw up by invading his physical space and trying to forcefully take his phone away.

But his kicking you was definitley not self defense, either, so it was assault. Probably third degree.

At his age, I don't know that spending time in jail would help him, but I definitlry see some intervention from that family being helpful. The father probably abuses the boy too.

Did the assault happen on shcool property?

What other kinds of abuse have there been in the relationship? Has he physically abused you before?

I'd say tell somebody. I'd say get a domestic violence restraining order so that he is ordered to leave you alone.

Heck yes, let your girl friends know that he is dangerous.

Meanwhile, do some self-education about abuse and domestic violence so that you can learn to avoid these dangerous guys in the future. Start by googling "The Signs of a Battering Personality."

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