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May 2, 2007
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I am doing ok. Still struggling a bit. The day is good. What I feel stupid is to keep getting interested in the same time of guy - the good looking ones that are shallow and not forthcoming. I don't know why exactly why the way he looked at me that one day, that I got sucked in. As I got to know him though and pieced it all together, he is not what I want. Lately haven't seen him around. I think he changed his post. I don't know though. I have been dressing up really nicely to make myself feel better. WHen I feel like I look nice I feel good about myself. Im an attractive lady (not to brag or anything), i am well aware of the looks and all but really I just want a guy in my life and the only ones that ever come up to me and are direct are the ones to stay away from. This guy is 12 years younger than me anyway so what was I seriously thinking. Actually I did go out with someone a few years ago that i could kick myself for because he was 10 years younger than me but we were both as the same level of maturity and he was nice but at the time I just wasn't ready. And now he is with someone else. He was so nice but lived a bit far. Anyway you are right this will pass. It already has just pops into my mind as sex should be left out of dates until you get to know the person. Getting to know them and having it is not the same. Unless you are ok with it. I was at first but I thought it would grow and he was not honest with where he was at. I am doing better. Im laying low, not to get caught up in anything.

May 2, 2007
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You is alright sweetheart. I can tell you some stories about the stupid ones in my past but that is just it, it is in the past.
See me, I love mens. Especially those good looking ones and yeah you are right some of them are shallow but not all of them. You will find the right person for yourself.

I also like to feel attractive. I am at my best when I feel like that. And I notice that when you feel like that about yourself, well come on now. You will attract all kind of mens.(And you attract all kind of people.)

We all have regrets but what can we do about it. There were some tigers in my days that I let get a way but there are more tigers out there that I need to get looking at before I trap one of them (smile)

See that tiger that you caught, well you almost had him, he wasn't right so you just open up that door so that he can get out. Leave the door open so that you can catch another tiger (smile)

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May 2, 2007
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Oh, Taj
I forgot to tell you I went out this past weekend with a tiger (smile)
We had a nice time. Nothing to serious though. Just enjoying each other.
Now my down fall is that when I cook for them, they always like to come back. I laugh because some of the mens in my life remind me of cats. Once you feed them, they is right back at your door. (smile) I can say for myself that I am a good cook. I have been cooking since I was 15 and that part get's me everytime.
My mother and grandmother told me that mens loves a home cook meal and they were right. I had already knew what would get them but this one , I think that I will take my time in letting him eat my cooking. I have set my boundaries and he respect that. He also knows that if our friendship don't work out then so be it. I'm enjoying myself, he better enjoy himself.
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May 2, 2007
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Please Taj64 donnot beat yourself up, Please be gently to you. I will just wonder when I have the courage to even date again. I do like men too. alot. I have had many tigers too. I am just proud that you had the courage, and although it didn't work out. Well too bad for him. And you are being so honest that I have got to admire you for that alone. Yes this will pass and I am sure there will be one or two mustakes again wil happen but at least you are trying.....One day once I get up and feel like it you might hear of a tiger or two of mine that didn't go as planned. Your friend, horsefly

May 3, 2007
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Taj,
I hope that you are having a bless day.
When you have a chance get back with me OK.
You are such a dear friend to me.
Love
Nappy!

May 3, 2007
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Im doing ok. I sent him an email to try for us to at least get past it and be friendly again but he ignored it or has not read it. He is too superifical for even a friend. It will be in my mind for awhile but at least i stopped something and did not get carry away. I guess he was not really my friend in the first place. Everyone likes my new dress today. It is polka dot dress and fits just right, not too snug or loose fitting. I feel like the belle of the ball. Only wish prince charming would notice!!!!!! WHoever he is!!!!How are all of you today?

May 3, 2007
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Nappy forgot to ask so sorry but who is this tiger? Im really curious!!!

May 3, 2007
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Taj,
I am so happy to hear from you today. Just for starter, you will get past this. You tried to be a friend to this person but he acting stupid so now, just let him walk on by. And I bet you do look beautiful in your new dress. Girl, I would be walking like I'm on stage and I would be just smiling because I would be saying to myself that Iknow that I'm loooooking goooood (smile)
And you may be surprise who is really looking at you. You never know.

Well this tiger (smile) is just a friend. Matter of fact he is a friend of the family. They been knowing him for a long time, I only see him sometimes when our family is having a gather or something and he would come sometimes. We talk but I wouldn't take it any further.
We have went out and I guess we just enjoy each other company. I'm not looking for this prince charming, I am having fun. And I guess he likes that about me because I am not taking life so serious just because we goes out on dates sometimes. I enjoy dancing and so does he. He loves to take walks in the park, so does I. He has a very beautiful home and I have mines and he has such beautiful flowers and I love flowers also.
I just notice that sense I have a difference attitude about life and things, I am attracting alot of guys.

I enjoy my single status, I am free. I tries very hard to picture someone (man) in my home and we are living together and you know what. I wake up real fast (smile)

Life is a learning process for me and I'm going to learn everything that I can. And I'm learning that I love to be happy.

What are you going to do for Mother' day? Do you have anything special plan with the kids?
Nappy

May 7, 2007
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TAJ,

I've been looking for you! And I am sorry to find that you're having some trouble. I want you to know that your advise to me throughout my problems has really helped, and I am here for you as well! I didnt get the whole story on your post, since I think it is in a different thread? Anyway, I will try to find it- check out my post. I am doing much better! My drama is over finally.

hope to hear from you- MissNhim- NotAnyMore!!

May 8, 2007
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Hello All, hello nappy. Im doing just fine. Better than ever! I think of you often. I send a special hello. Im low key now but guys you are so awesome. I love reading your posts because you make sense to me and as real as a friend can get. I watch from afar, and with amazement. I am doing ok, and have made great strides. Because I am myself. And I don't wait around anymore. I live for myself. And it is wonderful when you focus on yourself and what comes your way. You cannot be knocked down for too long, as long as you start living and thinking about what you want and need in life. Take care, hugs for all, write later, as well, Im doing ok.

May 9, 2007
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Taj,

HIGH FIVE NOT ONCE BUT THREE TIMES.

By reading your post my friend, I know for a fact that you are shining bright.

Keep up with the postive attitude.

Have a bless day!

Nappy

May 14, 2007
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Taj, I just wanted to check in on you and say Hi. I think you are a wonderful person. I always read your posts so I do know you are a very smart person too...Just saying Hello, horsefly

May 18, 2007
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Hello Dear Friend,

I haven't heard from you in a while and I hope that everything is going well for you.

Have a bless day and hope to hear from you soon.

Nappy!

May 19, 2007
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Hi. Did not mean to forget you guys. I have not. Im having issues again. I had contact with that ex of mine. It causes me a lot of grief. I know I should not email him. But I did. And he was good about it. I wish I could have ended up with him. All the time. He does bring out the best in me. I feel alive when I even feel a little close. But he has his own life. I checked up on him and he was glad because he won't contact me and he is glad because I do it for him. Nevertheless I think even throughout the years I am going to always feel the same about him, always. I sent him a rainbow picture and I told him whenever he saw one to think of me. Sigh. I just wanted to talk about it. I am over my little bump. It gets easier to ride the bumps. I just go back to the way it is. Thanks all for listening. I do appreciate having you guys around. It is hard for me because I do lack the support at home I need. And this is what makes it all so hard. Have a good day everyone.

May 19, 2007
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Im doing better about it. It did not cause me tremendous pain anymore. I still don't know what will happen with me, if I will ever find something good or someone special but I don't feel desperate about it. He is doing better and now I am the better person because now I don't mind that he told me his marriage was better. It did not hurt. Im glad he is feeling better, I am glad he is ok. I still hurt that I cannot share my life with him but you cannot take away the good part of what happened with us,it will always be there too. I used to just go about living to get through it but I am now making plans and moving forward and making changes that are positive. I have bad days sometimes, but I also have good ones too. I feel like I have done my time for my crime, so to speak but I am also grateful to have experienced someone that I can honestly say he was if there is such a thing as a soulmate, he was it for me. I have dated a lot, he stands out like a sore thumb. And no he was not the good looking one, he was actually close to the bottom as far as looks but it was not about looks, money, success, none of that, I liked him for who he was. I did not have many reasons to love him, it was just there, something that cannot be explained if asked. Im sure I will think of him everyday and ask why I did not get to be with him but life has to go on and I do that and now I do it without the pain of it. Time does heal wounds, thank goodness for that!

Thanks TC, hugs back to you too.

May 23, 2007
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My three favorite people. I love you ladies so much. You have been incredible. I hope your days is great! 🙂

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May 23, 2007
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Thank you feeling lost. You are one of mine too. I hope you feel better soon. I know you struggle a lot. I still do at times. We all deserve good don't we? I am not sure i will ever feel secure about a guy, Im am weak in that department. Ha. You keep hanging in there FeelingLost. Bet anything in the future you will be bailing me out of a mess but I hope not. Im joking but you know what I mean. Keep that focus on YOU feeling better and not feeling lost. Right? Right!

May 23, 2007
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feelinglost... Thank you for saying that!! It made me feel so good!

I've read your update and I'm sorry that things did not work out with bf the way you wanted them to... but I'm even more glad that you are making such giant strides at moving forward with your NEW LIFE! I know how hard it is. It hurts like Hell a lot of the time, but please know that it will get easier. I promise! Taj is living proof of that!

Taj, I'm glad you bounced back from your contact with your ex so quickly. I'll bet if you had that conversation with him a year ago, it would have knocked you down for the count. But, you are so much stronger and wiser now!!

Nappy... Sorry to hijack your thread!!! Keep on giving the great advise that you do!!!! You're great!

Peace,

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May 23, 2007
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Feelinglost,
You are a favorite friend to me also.
You are also a special person.
I have a lot of faith in you that you will come out of this feeling and into something much greater.

Taj64,

My friend, I hope that everything is going well with you also. Really miss talking with you.

Hope you both are having a bless day and let the sun shine right into your heart.

Nappy!

May 23, 2007
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tc66,
you can come at any time.
Hope that you are having a good day also.

Nappy!

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