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my talents have gone to waste
May 23, 2006
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just feeling sorry for myself today. When I was just a toddler I began to sing. I was in talent shows and I could also play piano by ear. I could just listen to a song and play it. I could hear a song one or two times and know all the words and notes. When I sang people would cry. The farther I got in school thoough I began to be more self conscience. I wasnt from the wealthiest family and always wore hand me down clothes. I also was a book worm.I had my own personal bully all through highschool. He would yell mean things to me down the hallway in front of eveyone, of course they would all laugh. I became so isolatted from everyone. I never spoke out in class so I wouldnt draw attention to myself, if I did no matter what I said kids would laugh or make a mean comment. So of course I quit singing. Which hurt me and my family. My mom loved to hear me sing. I now have horrible stage fright, if anyone is around and I try to sing my voice goes silent, or cracks. Music has always been my one passion, and my grandfathers also, he was atraveling Jaz artist. I have thrown away my talent and am just feeling sorry for myself today. I do still wrire music but I dont let anyone read it. I wonder if I will ever get over it! On a good note 2 of my daughtwers have a beatiful voice, my 13 year old won two competetions this year, she got perfect scores. I am afraid one day she will see my stage fright and stop singing herself.

May 23, 2006
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I think I have the same kind of problem, I can play any musical instrument and I know if I didnt have social anxiety I could do a lot more and also low self-esteem prevents me from trying to learn more. I might start taking private lessons on the piano to improve my piano playing. I wish I could play the piano really well. Its not too late. Just gonna take lots of practice. Infact now that I got another year of my job, I could try contacting music students to see who could teach me.

Singing is beyond my reach although I wish I could sing too! Just dont have the courage, yup.

You could really improve your self-image if you do this boldly, mamac. Lets do it I say.. I'm gonna start the piano lessons and you start something too..!

May 23, 2006
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Mamac, music is wonderful! I'm a musician and I'm active in my community with a whole bunch of musical groups. I'm mostly an instrumentalist, but I got involved in some community choirs as well. It's NEVER too late to get involved in something like this.

Stage fright is much easier to overcome in a group setting. Just think, if you're standing on stage with 60 other people, what's there to be afraid of? I'd check with a local community college and see if they have continuing ed classes for choir. They usually meet one evening per week and the fee for the class is usually a donation to the school. In my area it's between $35 and $80 per quarter, depending on the school.

From one musician to another, don't give up your love! Music can be picked up again, no matter whether your hiatus was 3 months or 3 decades. *smile*

May 23, 2006
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I agree that it is never too late. I was actually a music major in college. But I was intimidated and discouraged by all the amazing talent I was encountering, believing that my own talent was not comparable. I became a legal secretary and did not play an instrument or sing in public for, oh, close to 20 years! When I joined my first church, I joined the choir. People were so wonderful. They complimented my singing and encouraged me to do more. I sang a solo in church one Sunday. That was 10 years ago. Now I sing with a church choir regularly, sing special music about once a month, actually sang and played the guitar a couple of weeks ago, and have been asked to lead worship in the near future. I feel so blessed!

May 23, 2006
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If you really love this, it would be so worth it to overcome your fear. I remember being totally afaid of public speaking but once I tried it, I actually found i was pretty good at it and was amazed how time flew by when I actually spoke. I dreaded the amount of time involved. I hope you do not give up a love like this. Don't let your talent go to waste or you may regret it down the road.

May 23, 2006
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wow guys thanks so much for your support. I did omit one thing cause I didnt find it relavent but I guess it is. 4 years ago my biological mom died{im adopted}, I was so distraught, I forced myself to sing at a function with people I knew. I was a trmbeling wreck, but I sang anyway. "the Rose" was the song, my moms favorite. After, I looked up and everyone was crying. One person said to me, "where have you been hiding that voice". even after this happened I still have stage fright. It must go alot deeper than I think, who knows. Maybe Ishould try kereoke, although everytime I go I chicken out. Maybe if I just force myself enough I will be more at ease.

May 23, 2006
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gosh Mama, you MUST sing. If you made people cry while being nervous imagine what'll happen if you sang relaxed.

See if you can sing alone and record songs.. how about that? Where no one can hear. How about starting from that? See if you can hire a studio or something or anything else that'll work. How about finding someonelese who's also shy like you, so you can both be brave in front of each cause you know you're not alone being shy.

May 23, 2006
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Why would god give you a talent and you don't use it. If you belong to a church, you and your children should start from there. Let god talent shine through you and your children. We all are bless with something special and it is a shame that some people keep it all to them self.
Having a speech problem as a kid is very terrible. Kids make fun of me and I went through life in silent.
Well I didn't feel sorry for myself because I knew that when I grew up, I would be owning my own company one day and had to be around other people. I taught myself how to talk. And I hope to work with children, that has the same problem. Just imaging standing in front of people and have to make a speech. (smile)
Well today I am happy to say that I can't stop talking. (smile) I know that people would like for me to (smile) but I want, (smile) because god gave me a beautiful voices to sing when I want to and to talk when it is needed. So don't never think that your talent is gone to waste because it is not. Lift every voice and sing.

May 23, 2006
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Practice makes perfect! Get out there and do it. What's the worst that could happen? Even if the worst happens (i.e. your pants elastic breaks while you're up there singing, and you're exposed wearing your lucky green and pink polka dotted panties), your family and friends will still love you, and so will we. Besides, it will make a helluva story in a few years for you to tell.

May 23, 2006
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Mamac,
You have many talents.

I think we all have this unease because deep down, we don't feel our best is good enough. Who are we trying to please? the world has trained us to be self critical so we can avoid failure, punishment, embarrassment.

I hope you find a way through it. Langston Hughes said it best in his poem about the dream deferred, what happens to it? none of the options are pretty.

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May 23, 2006
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Im so amazed right now. I think if you cannot do this for yourself, then go out there and do this for your family. Your voice affects people please do it for those that appreciate it.

May 23, 2006
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Taj, I disagree with the above, mama must do it for herself and herself only. Never, never, live for others first. You have to live for yourself first. Thats what I believe and I guess we'll have to agree to disagree on that one.

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Ok Taj, well alright then, anything to get Mama singing.

May 23, 2006
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Ah sweet music

Let yourself sing!!

I had a teacher over twenty years ago who convinced me that not sharing my voice was actually a form of selfishness. He told me that my voice was a gift from the Creator and to not share was coming from my fear.

He taught me that my gift of singing was a way of honouring my maker.

He asked me, "Does a bird know that someone may be listening, or does it sing because that's its way of showing thankful praise for being alive?"

Sing your heart out Mamac, in the shower, in your car, whenever you are happy or sad. Simply sing.

And one day the bully and all of the mean things he did will be overcome because he couldn't silence your gift.

May 23, 2006
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maybe you could try singing in a church choir, things are easier in a group. Then work your way down to performing with smaller and smaller groups of singers, until you are solo! I agree that your voice is a gift, and you should try to use it to bring other people happiness...hope you find your courage!

May 24, 2006
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Thankyou for all the encouragement it helps. The test will be me, and if I actually go through with it

May 24, 2006
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I agree the choir would be a great start

May 24, 2006
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hi mamac,
Maybe practice singing, do you play guitar at all? I have an acoustic guitar and I sing in my car every now and then and think, maybe someday I will get up in front of some people at an open mic night or something. That could be an outlet for you to use your singing skills.

I know it is really hard being made fun of and being bullied, I had my share of people who existed (it seemed) to make my life miserable and hurt me. Kids are mean and say mean things. Even some adults are mean, as we know. Just know, it had more to do with themselves than you personally.

I hope you are feeling in better spirits today!
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May 24, 2006
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mama
If you care to, maybe you could go to a nursing home or childrens homes, etc. and entertain them. You would sing and enjoy helping others and eventually get used to it.and feeling good about what you are doing wont hurt either. Sing your heart out love.

May 25, 2006
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Oh, can I relate to this. I hid my talent "under a bushel" for a very long time. How about starting in a local choir until you get yer "chops" back? Nothing competetive.

I can't really sing, but I do play the flute. That dang flute stayed in its case for about 15 years. Then one day a counsellor told me that I was not challenged enough and suggested "music" to me to exercise another part of my brain as well as to reduce stress. So I joined our pokey little community concert band. From there, I met another flutist. She also was hiding her talent. We started rehearsing together on our own and then started to entertain in nursing homes. As a past activity aide I can tell you that any nursing home loves to have entertainment and you will not get a better and more receptive audience. Very appreciative and this is such a confidence builder. From this I was asked to play in the pit orchestra for our community theatre musicals (I've played for 5 different musicals). My flute friend and I also formed a professional duet and now we are paid to play at special functions. If you told me this would happen, I would have never believed it in a million years.

In my head, my inner critic always says, "you suck", but the tons of positive feedback tell us otherwise.

You just have to take that little step forward. Don't let bad performances stop you either. I've had enough stinkers that wanted me to crawl under the nearest rock. When you play the flute, the slightest bit of nervousness shows in your tone. However, my friend and I review our performances, what we did well and where we can improve. It is great to have a partner to take some of the pressure off.

I hope some of these little tips help. Like the Nike ads say, "just do it". Good luck!!!!

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