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My son don't like my boyfriend and should i stop talking to him because of it.
May 15, 2006
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When my boyfriend get mad at me, he leave stupid message on my answering machine. My son heard it and told me that he is tired of my boyfriend and he wants me to leave him alone. My son never like this man and I don't like having this man over to my house because my son speak to him and that is it. My boyfriend put on this act but I guess that my son can see right throught him.
I heard the message that my boyfriend left and he is angry because he wants me to call him all the time and when I do call him, he say that he calls but when you leave a message it does give you the time and day that the person call. He is always letting me go and I think that after that message, I should give him what he wants. I should leave him alone and let him go. There will never be anything else between us, so far as building a relationship together as seeing our future in living together. I would never live with this man again. Since we don't live together it has been good sometimes and then again when he don't know what I am doing, he get mad. My son get mad because he say that I am not married to this man and he once had me living with him before and he let it go, so now he wants to know everything I am doing and wants to be a part of our lives. I don't want that because I am very close to my kids and they don't want him there. I can never go back and live with this man because I don't trust him and my boys don't either.
Should I just call him up and let him know that this relationship is over and that he can go on with life.

May 15, 2006
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Sometimes we know the answer but like the reaffirmation that others have. I think you know that you can never really have a decent/healthy relationship if you do not trust him and that your children don't trust him either. Always listen to your children because sometimes they know better because one they are close to you and know you better than any other person in the world and they too know what is best for you. Sometimes the love bug clouds our judgment as well. And on top of it, you don't want him there so why risk it. Chances are it will get worse anyway. Don't give him what he wants, give yourself what you want. What do you want...not this because you say so.

May 15, 2006
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I would listen to my children on this one. Also, you said you used to live with this man and it didn't work out, It's so hard to go back once you've gotten to a certain point in the relationship. If things didn't work out when you lived with him chances are they will not work out now. From what I read nothing has changed in him. He sounds like someone that is very controling and untrusting, I think you would be better to leave or atleast start pulling away from him and focus on yourself and your kids If he has a problem with that then he has no respect for you or your happiness and I wouldn't want to be with a man like that.
Take care...

May 15, 2006
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It is so hard, but I think that I do have to tell him that this relationship is over. Even when I want to see him, my son is looking at me with anger because I am still talking with this man. He said something on my answering machine that I still think about what he said.
After all what he said to me, he said
" I HOPE GOD HAVE MERCY ON YOUR SOUL"
That don't sound right to me. He made like I did something wrong and that just don't sound right to me. It sound like he is scared of me leaving him and not ever coming back to him. My son heard that and said he is just talking stupid because he is.

May 17, 2006
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Your son in my opinion sounds like he knows this situation,and thank God,he is fending off this guy from you in the only way he can.You don't want this man,and there is no confusion,you have already let him go.If he continues to contact you,put your foot down.NO MORE.There is nothing left to say,so yes,stop speaking to him,and your son will come back around.He's mad because he sees how bad this guy is for you,and wants you to stop speaking to him.You probably didn't do anything except for leave this BF in the dust where he belongs.Going back to him should not be an option,if you don't mind losing your son.You sound like that is not what you want,so yes,give this man you had seen the boot,for good,and you will find someone who will love you for you,and not try to guilt you into choosing him over your son,or yourself.

May 17, 2006
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Hello everything,
After days has went by, I ask god to let me really understand what is going on here. Well my son that is 21 don't like this man because my son don't do anything. He has a poor attitude about things and think that everyone owe him something. He blames everyone for his life that is not going right. By boyfriend on the other hand see that my sons (26, 23, 21) are grown and when am I going to have a life. I had to sit back for a minute and think about things that I never really thought about. When my sons are going through things in life, as there mother I tries very hard to talk with them and to show them the right path. But do they do it NO. Then when there life is not going right, they is calling upon me. They want me to fix the problems and I can't. I think that my one son don't want me talking to anybody because then he wouldn't have anyone to just lay upon and talk the way he does because he is a grown man now and still wants to be little.

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