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My patience is over with that moron...
May 27, 2006
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This is with regard to my jerky neighbor next door who produces noise while having sex with his g/f.

Although I've had some improvement with no-noise sex so far by following the tips you all gave to me...playing some music, making some noises like bang on the wall between us while they make sex-noise. However, another annoyance and irritation started a few months ago and I have been soooooooooo patient toward that moron and his daughter.

Each time they enter their apartment, they both (father & daughter & his gf when she comes over) slams the door strongly.

Today, I put stick on note on his door that read "Please close the door gently." I also and informed his daughter to do so in person.

They are both right back a few minutes ago...I'm sure he read that note, yet he/they continue to slam the door rudely with NO consideration or respect to that polite note. What shall I do with this moron????

May 27, 2006
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Also I can Not call the police for such a thing, Unfrotunately! Can I???

May 27, 2006
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ras, this post caught my eye...keep leaving notes, and hopefully they will get the hint!!!! but then agaim. tjhey may have resentment for youputting the note up,and are doing this on purpose now....at least they could do is have respect...Keep posting notes and see if anything changes, if not.....take the next step and have the cops stop them...good luck!!

May 28, 2006
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Thanks Camer for your reply. I will give him/them a probation period whereby I will continue to post notes on his door and stay patient...if he does not appreciate my kindness & patience, I will have to Unfortunately call the police. I hope I won't need to.

I will keep you all posted!

Have a great sunny Sunday!

May 28, 2006
10:14 pm
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Rasputin, one night after particularly loud slamming, play a tape of very loud dogs barking right outside their door. If nothing else it may make you feel better. šŸ™‚

Lol.

May 28, 2006
10:34 pm
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Ras, Crank your stereo up FULL BLAST, then go shopping!! šŸ˜‰

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May 29, 2006
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Wow She & Jen - Thank you both for the Awesome ideas. If this jerk and his family continue to slam the doors, I will definitely give these devices a shot.

Your tips made me CRACK UPPPPPPPP!!!

Thanks!

May 30, 2006
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Oh jeez just get over it already.

May 30, 2006
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What's wrong, Ginger?

May 30, 2006
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Unfortunately the spiteful child in me would be banging the walls at about 3am. How about a police siren or a bull horn. WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!

May 30, 2006
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Sorry IPW, it was an angry outburst, due to my frustration with Rasputin historically speaking. I withdraw my comment, as it is not helpful.

I promised a while ago that I would no longer waste my time or energy on Rasputin for a variety of reasons, but I didn't keep the promise to myself, so I need to go back to that.

May 30, 2006
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radio idea may be funny one I must admit. But unfortunatly in their case they seem to be childish and will just get back at you. Do you have a landlord? If so maybe you could arange a sit down with the landlord and your neighbors, as much fun as it would be to stoop totheir level it will make things worse. What else have you got to lose if you patience is gone.

May 30, 2006
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I see this as ongoing for you Ras. It is fruitless to try communication with this neighbor as it only adds to your frustration. It is as if your endeavors only provoke them to antagonize you. Are you perhaps setting yourself up for disappointment by trying politness because in this case it doesn't do good to be polite. Are you perhaps in this note portraying sacacism by sending the note in the first place? I agree slamming of the door could be perceived as being rude. But when I go to visit my neighbor in an apartment complex, I notice that her door does not have one of those mechanisms on the back of the door from the inside so that the door closes on it own in quiet way, it simply shuts and slams on it own. My friend is oblivious to this noise as if she didn't hear it or notice it but I know if I lived in that building I think I would be pretty angry to hear it slam every time she walked out the door and I had said something to her about her door. And i noticed the missing bracket. You cannot "slam" the door if it is adjusted properly. Check your apartment door to see how yours works. Other than that I cannot advise anything except to consider moving away but then you may get a worse neighbor. You can't pick and choose your neighbors!

June 1, 2006
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Taj - We have the same system with doors here, they close automatically. However, the back door is the problem as you have to use your elbow to close it.

This jerk only excels at using only the back door partly to spy on me and partly to slam the door. Even in the middle of winter where there is snow or it's pouring rain, he and his daughter would favor using the back door. They rarely use the front door.

Last nite, I woke up at 1:30 am and I opened my back door and slammed it twice. I really wanted him to taste just a bit of that bitter medicine he's been giving to me.

I will wait patiently for a while for this moron and see how he behaves and keep posting notes if he continues with his silly behavior and will surely keep you posted.

Thanks all!

June 1, 2006
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Dear Ras,

With all due respect, I've been reading about this situation for quite some time...I left for over a month or so, and I come back and you're still playing that game with your neighbors. Aren't you tired, yet?

From my perspective, and I can only go by what I read, your attempts to quell their disrespectful neihboring habits, does nothing but fuel their fire.

It seems like a "tit for tat" thing you all have going on.

I have no idea if you've talked about this in the past, but would it be possible for you to move?

It seems to me like you are much more tortured by this than they are.

OK, they are rude neighbors...I have rude neighbors too, but I do not let them control everything around my environment.

The only things I can suggest is to move or let it go and ignore it.

Obviously, the notes you leave are completely ineffective. And, you are dealing with people who don't care about your notes, or your comfort. Nothing you can really do about it. I don't think there is a law banning door slamming or loud screwing.

Hope you can find peace somehow...

Lotus

June 1, 2006
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errrr..well I'm sure that noisy sex and slamming doors are a nuisance and are irritating to you, but I don't think that they are copcall worthy. They really can't be cited for anything (unless that sex is so noisy that they broadcast it over a bullhorn..ha) and may breed resentment.

You can't control them or their noisy behavior. I would NOT employ revenge tactics..that will just escalate things. Instead, killing them with kindess would be my suggestion. What you are asking for from them is consideration, I doubt you'll get that by engaging in noise war, but you might by being kind. Now if It doesn't desist after that, well then you are no worse off and you can avoid and address them as needed.

June 1, 2006
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I think you have built up so much resentment for this particular neighbor that it may never get past it unless you move. You said earlier I think that you could not. I had a falling out with my next door neighbor awhile back. Thought she was too much in my business and knocked on my door about my son. Some of it was true what she was saying but also that a lot what nothing of my concern. HOwever bottom line was that it was not her business in first place. We had it out and I saw a side to her where she blew up and acted just as angrily as my son. He has short temper and has since gotten better. Anyway we did patch things and we are friends again yet I still feel that I like her but living in townhouse she is so close and always outside as if she spends more time outside. Im looking to get out because Im tired of townhouse life. In apartment you are even closer so I can only imagine how hard it is for you Ras. I would think how seriously this is affecting your life and also think about moving somewhere else. It is not worth it to live like this. Either you can move and get away from it or you can live harmoniously. But I think Lotus is right and so is Glitter when he walked. but I would not kill them with kindness, you have already been polite so what is the point in being polite? See if you can move to another apartment in the complex. Having the right neighbors can make all the difference when living in a home and you have a right to live in a peaceful home. Period.

June 1, 2006
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Lotus - With all due respect, if you have been following my earlier threads, you would have understood lots of things and have empthized more. I am planning to move or rather relocate. However, it does not happen overnite, sadly!

Actually the tips the folks gave to me here were very successful and I am very glad to have done them esp with people who are jerks who take advantage of the law since there is no law against making loud noises during sex.

I have been doing my homework very well. Do not worry!

Glit & Taj - Believe me, this situation has been going on for over 3 years, ie ever since they moved in. At 1st, I was very shy and codep. Ever since I joined this site last year, I changed a lot and the lovely folks here taught me that being two sweet is NO good. I used to keep silent and say nothing for their noisy sex (I know very codep) which made those jerks take advantage of my sweet and kind personality and do it over and over again.

Sadly Glit, not all people are touched by our Kindness. No wonder I call them JERKS!!!!

Mind you Glit & Taj, when I used the tips folks gave to me here like thumping the wall between us, playing loud music while they start moaning loudly and, they stopped making sex-noise.

The scenario goes like this: They stop the noisy sex and start to behave for a period of 5/6 months, then they start all over again thinking that may be I have loosened up.

I am anticipating relocation to another place in my country. It's been 2 years and 1/2. I also am planning to go back to school which would make it impossible with sex-noise and door-slamming.

Thus far, as you can see, I continue with my Kindness till further notice!

June 1, 2006
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Ras: FYI- Romeo now closes his window when its sex time- so that part is good- if only he would put some WD40 on it so it wouldn't squeak- its still an announcement, but at least he got the message that his neighbors prefer not to hear it. So its a little better.

June 1, 2006
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Kudos to him. Romeo grew up a little at last. Thrilled to hear that SD!!!
He is more mature and sensitive than those jerks living next to me who are seeking revenge now by slamming doors.

Romeo Rocks!!!! ROFLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL

June 1, 2006
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Ras~

I said I hadn't followed your other threads. I wasn't speaking out of lack of empathy, but rather out of a place to help you seek peace with a situation that obviously frays your nerves to no end, and one which you have little to no control over unless you move.

True, moving doesn't happen over night, but if you know you are moving, I'm not sure how you can "cope" until then...but, what the hell do I know, anyway.

Here's hoping you find internal, as well as external, resolution to the matter which irks you so.

Cheers,
Lotus

June 2, 2006
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Ras,

"Mind you Glit & Taj, when I used the tips folks gave to me here like thumping the wall between us, playing loud music while they start moaning loudly and, they stopped making sex-noise.

The scenario goes like this: They stop the noisy sex and start to behave for a period of 5/6 months, then they start all over again thinking that may be I have loosened up. "

I think it's specualtive to conclude that they resumed being noisy bedmates because they figured you loosened up, it's just as likely that they may have forgotten and are lost in the moment so to speak. Speculation on my part is that most folks don't want others to hear them getting it on, but some folks can be vocal when aroused.

But I understand your dilemma, to me, hearing people getting frisky is at best humorous for a short period, but after a while it seems annoying in its animalistic nature.

My suggestion remains that you not call the police. You may certainly remind them politely if their noisy behavior is unreasonable to you, I'd still be decnet to them, but I wouldn't go out of my way for them. There's a distinct difference bewteen being kind and being a codependent pushover. In the end, all you can really do is ask them to consider you.

June 2, 2006
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Thanks Glit for your Wise and kind counsel. I may say I would call the police out of frustration or anger, but deep inside I do NOT wish/mean to do so or at least might keep it as a last resort.

June 2, 2006
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Ras I just think you deserve to live in a peaceful house. I think you put up with it long enough, and Im glad to hear that you will move. I think that is only solution unless they move first. It is hard to come home at end of day and wonder how it will be. Your home is your castle no matter where you live and you deserve to enjoy it. Those jerks should have treated you like a person/human and not as somebody to see how they can torture. I find it disgusting to have to hear someone else sex life going. They really should have respected you.

June 2, 2006
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Thanks (((Taj))) for you warm, cozy, and soothing post/words. You really make me relaxed and comforted whenever I read your posts. You are One of my best cyberfriends here and I love you sooo much. God bless you sweetie!!!!

(((Hugs)))

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