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My Parents Think It Is Not Normal
January 13, 2001
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lilvwhottie
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My parents think that depression is not normal. I can not tell my parents that I cut. I hide it from them because I know that they will start hollering and it will probably never end. My brother bothers me so much, my parents are always to busy for me and they are very strict and than there is my crush. He is always talking about other girls in front of me. He makes me feel so unwanted just like the others in my life. They won't even take a second look to what I am doing. They don't usually ask if I am o.k. Please. I need some advice.

January 13, 2001
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Hun, I care about you so much. I still think I need to talk to your parents. Your crush isn't worth it hun. You already went down that road before, he isn't worth it, no guy is worth it. Lets take a break hun. Save our tears for real problems, save our pain and knives for real things. We need to stick together, I will always be there for you, I love you so much. Hang in there girly!
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January 14, 2001
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Wow, Cutie did you really say that? You have come a long way, that was good advice, and very supportive. Keep up the good work. Mean ole Molly

January 14, 2001
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You deserve much more than that ingrate of a crush. Somewhere is a nice guy who will think you are the reason God put him on this earth and he willhonor and respect you and your feelings. Now think....about this... When that super special guy comes along do you want to have to share the fact that you think so little of your body you will scar it?

Your parents are right. Depression is not "normal". It can come and go and manyof us will feel depression at tdifferent times of our lives.

GO to your parents and TELL them what you NEED. They cannot read your mind and you may be putting on a good front of "Every thing is Okay" It's NOT okay....you are sad...you need attention and you are cutting yourself.

Of course they will hooler if they find out you are cutting!!!!

WHY will they holler? Is it becasue they don't want you hurt...even by yourself?

We paretns are strict because often we already know the type of hurts the world has in store and we want to protect you as long as possible from things that will hurt you.

Seek help NOW

January 22, 2001
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My parents found out that i was depreesed. One of my friends told the councler on me and that day we had a meeting with my parents. My parents were so upset but at least they found out. They treated me like i needed help the first couple of days and then all of a sudden they start fight ing with me like nothing happened. I think they think that is over with. But that is not true and i want to tell them that is not over but I think that they will think that it is all my best friend and they will cut of all comunication. They already are monitoring all my conversations. I have no idea what to do. I need advice.

January 22, 2001
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It would be best if they heard it from you. Parents take it as a betrayal of sorts, and if they find out some other way, they will feel this even more. If, on the other hand, they find out some other way, they will have a MUCH harder time trusting you. So what if it's a scene? You need help, and you are asking for it, and I am proud of you.

January 22, 2001
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cutie, are you hottie and gothic girl all friends/?

January 23, 2001
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yeah we are we are friends with lilvwhottie too

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January 23, 2001
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It may be too, that parents feel inadequate,and try to defend their actions or denial. Denial is a great place to be as a parent, after all we do the best we can, give you all we can, and don't really see or hear a damn thing sometimes. It's dad's fault, or mom's fault, or your friends fault, or just you wanting attention. They are only human, and trying hard to do the right thing, but they only know what they know, and sometimes, you must be in their face and say I need more, I need help, hear me, clearly. Don't give up on them, and don't give up on you, keep trying to be clear on what you need, and by all means, utilize all resources available, talk to the school counselor, talk to teachers, reach out here, and keep trying with the parents, they really do love you.

January 24, 2001
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Listen to Molly...
We do try. and denial is so easy. Parents do have feelings to and our hearts just BREAK with pain when our children are hurting. But it's so much easier to deny or try to MAKE you kids see things from our perspective which is silly in the long run

Be calm and tell them you still need help and wnat htem on your side...

Remind them it isn't a battle or a race but life

January 31, 2001
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Thanx Molly and janes.. I think my parents are still trying to understand it but I think they are getting there.. Just wanted to thank all of you for the support.and don't forget Cutie14!!

February 2, 2001
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LilVWHottie
I Love you so much girl I know we are not the closest friends but I have known you forever. what I have to say to you is be thankful your parents are so strict still. I hated it when my parents were super strick they still some what are but not as much. But when they did let me go and see the real world everything came crashing down around me. I wish I had more freedom yet true but I also miss the sheltered ness not knowing what wass happening in the world around me. You may not appriciate it now but in the long run be glad they are doing it. No offence to you but you need to stop letting the little things get to you. I know what you are all thinking oh my god this is coming from Gothic Girl's mouth but indeed it is. I am not trying to be mean and I know depression comes without cause but know that you have such a good life. You have a house and food and a family. You have friends that care about you deeply you have a lot that some people envy for be happy. Be happy you are liked for who YOU are. Just because your parents are strict and yell at you and you have an annoying younger brother and have been "rejected in a way" by your crush are no reasons to cut or to want to take your own life. I mean they may seem like some pretty bad things to you right now but then think again about how much worse they could be ya know. You are one smart kind loveable girl and I think that you have no need to take your own life. Well I am going to stop preaching now. I love you so much and I hate to see you doing this to yourself over such small things. What is going to happen when something really big happens ya know? I am just scared for you thats all.

February 5, 2001
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i think you are right Gothic Girl..... But sometimes it just seems that i shouldn't be treated like i am their "little girl" sometimes. my dad thinks i shouldn't wear spegetti straps and you can hardly find something w/o them. My dad is so old fashioned, sometimes it is sooooo horrible. I may sound like a little whiney kid but it gets really bad.

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