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My parents have problems,
October 1, 2000
7:37 pm
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kiLLeRmAn
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Four years ago my younger bro changed himself significantly. He started to dress differently, talk differently, perform poorly in school, disrespect parents in home, harass my sis, and made some bad friends. I always knew my bro was very weak to peer pressure. He always rushed to get the cool jacket, and shoes that his friends had.
As a solution to teh problem, my mom insisted on my dad to punish him, by not buying shoes and pants for him whenever he requested them. My dad lectured him almost everyday, however bought my bro everything he wanted. My mom lectured my bro prolly 4 times during these past 4 years about his extreme misbehaviour. My dad bought him all everything to prevent my bro from stealing them or ending up in jail.

Because of this disagreement my mom kicked my dad out. She thinks that my dad made my bro like this.

I really think that my mom just wants to seperate from my dad for some other reason. She just found this stupid reason. I don't think my mom should be against my dad simply because he has a different view to the solution. What do u guys think? THANKS FOR YOUR TIME!!!!THANK YOU.

October 2, 2000
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Regardless of what the agenda is it is not yours, sad to be in the situation as a child of domestic turmoil, but your job is too keep your own head together, best to you.

October 3, 2000
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Why do you call yourself killerman?
You are obviously very angry as well as extremely insightful and intelligent. The anger is a cover for fear, accept that you are afraid and feel lonely so that your anger doesnt get the best of you.
You are NORMAL to feel lonely and afraid in what is obviously a dysfunctional family life, but do NOT feel any guilt for the situation. YOu are not responsible, you are a child and your parents are adults.
YOu may be very perceptive in saying that your mother may have another agenda, but own your power and stay centred in your school life, friends and hobbies as much as possible. Talk to a school counsellor about your feelings and a close trusted friend if possible.
Know that you have a lot of potential and seperate yourself from the problems as much as possible so that you can give yourself the much needed support and love. god bless "killerman" smiles

October 3, 2000
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Molly and Brenda, thanks for your comments and time. But can u plese tell me if my mom has a valid reason to seperate for my dad, just because he didn't punish my bro but lectured him.

October 3, 2000
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Brenda, I forgot to tell you that my name, "Killerman", just popped up automatically. My roomate must've logged in as "Killerman" 4 me. I am not angry. Thanks for ur time.

October 3, 2000
11:36 pm
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killerman, if your mom feels there is a strong enough difference in parenting styles, combined with other problems, well I guess one could seperate for that reason, but quite frankly I would work together on it.
Obviously there must be more to the story than just that. Legally she can seperate for any reason she wants, if shes not happy ( differences of opinioin ) is grounds for divorce these days..sad to say

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