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My life is in a near dead end.
October 19, 2013
4:42 pm
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Hello everybody. I really hope I'm in the right forum!


I used to live in the US since I was a baby and I was raised American until I was 8 years old. I had perfectly good grades (always >B+) and used to be a very friendly, and a social kid at school.  At that point I had moved to another country and started a totally (horrible) new life. At 9 yo I still hadn't gone to school and had no clue on how to write anything regarding this other language, even though I could speak a bit of it. I started going to school at 10. 

Now I am 16 yo and school is getting worse over the years as I cannot socially interact with teens my age considering they have total diferent interests and have no clue how bad this country is influencing them to have a horrible life ahead. I cannot pay attention to what teachers explain due to the fact of many people who are not interested in learning anything at all talking and cluttering the entire time. My class has a 95% rate of scumbags. When I usually get what my teacher's talking about,  I get home and immediately have to translate it and look it up in english. If that doesn't happen I really can't understand what the topic's on.

My father insists I have to finish high school and college before going anywhere. My grades are extremely low and school ends in December, therefore I really think I'm going to fail 11th grade.

Along with all that, I cannot drive until I'm 18 and public transportation sucks. Violence is a huge problem also. Taxes here are outrageous. Cars are three times as expensive as in the US. Bribery happening as we speak. Uneducated people everywhere.

Since I am not a legal american citizen, I cannot return to the US at will and realized a couple years ago that the american immigration process isn't easy, but I really will not stand living here longer. 

I'll add more stuff as the thread flows.

I really need some help before I do something insane. Cry


Thank you all.

October 20, 2013
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Dear Gor,

thank you for sharing your situation & trying to find a solution to your plight.  I was once in a similar situation & I know how hard it is to cope in a new country with a new language, in a new school & away from the friends that you once know.  Learning a new language let alone a new culture is probably more than enough for you to try to deal with.

The most that you can do is try your best and wait until you are a little older to see whether you might legally be allowed to return to the U.S.A.  I am not sure what the laws say concerning this.

I do not know the circumstances of why your parents left the U.S. to go to another country to live but perhaps since you are not a legal American citizen your parents had to leave.  You have not addressed this issue in your post.

No matter what happens to you next, you must try your best to cope.  If you like reading english you might find a library and spend your free time reading or perhaps you may keep a journal of your trials of everyday life wherever you are living.


It seems to me that you are a good writer and at least have learned how to write with a purpose.  Also you have access to the internet so you can try to use your time to learn more useful things & continue to reach out here when you feel hopeless and helpless.  I cannot change your situation, but I can certainly listen and write with you.


Try to enjoy whatever you can & try to learn about the culture that surrounds you.  Try finding other 16 yr olds who are positive and are not taking on this attitude of apathy and disrespect.  I am sure that there must be at least one other teenager who is keen on learning & maybe you could help each other somehow.


Good luck


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October 20, 2013
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One option you may wish to consider is an on-line education. If you attend an accredited online High School based in the US you can obtain a High School diploma that is recognized in the US. You may also want to look into online accredited colleges based in the US to obtain a college degree. Once you obtain a 4 year college degree you will become elibible to teach English in other countries. There are working visa's and college visas that you can look into that will help you get back to the US.

“You have no control over what the other guy does. You only have control over what you do.”

October 20, 2013
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I think the recommendations from Oneday and "devon"  are good enough for you to deal with your current situation. If you hate the current place you're in right now then at least learn how to adapt and adjust yourself. I'm not saying you violate rules and laws as well or undergo rebellion but learn to appreciate at least the little things you have. If it's difficult for you to understand the language there then there's internet or self-help options availble on the web. You can always find ways to make yourself comfortble and the choice to be happy always depends on you.

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