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MY HUBBY IS WALKING OUT......
September 14, 2005
3:30 pm
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I have a feeling that this time he is really going to walk out.........it's has been 9days e has not coming home. He called me when I was on my way back home....he says that he will transfer $28 or $40 to my account. I asked him that if he is not coming back he says maybe. I told him that I will inform my mother-in-law, he say I am "siao"

I called my in-law & told her, she says she will call him tonight.

While taking the bus 315 home, I can't control my tears........after so many years I thought my tears has dried .......I am not sure if I have prepared this day to come.....guessed it's mix feelings. I have been tolerating in this marriage for more than 8 years & finally the day is approaching....I won't use the word"lost" as the hit is not so strong comparing to yr2000 when I found out about his extra marital affairs....I have been giving him chances to change but I think he is not interested. In a relationship, it takes 2 hands to clap, I think all these years I have been doing the solo. I am tired..............

I just hope that I will be strong to go through this hurdle....

September 14, 2005
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I can assure you you will be strong enough to go through this hurdle and come out on the other side. I say good riddens to your husband. You don't need a man that cheats on you and is not interested in changing.

September 14, 2005
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It might not seem like it right now, but why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? If he does leave, that at least gets you out of the limbo-land you've been living in. You can get through this, you are strong enough. It's ok to cry. (((Lost)))

September 14, 2005
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Hi. You have strength even if it doesn't seem like it right now. It will take awhile. But the future will be brighter without having to worry if your husband will cheat on your or not. You don't have to live with this anymore. He cannot hurt you again. I think you will come out even stronger in the long run. It will show you to find real love.

September 14, 2005
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yes you do have the strength...and yes, thinking about the marriage ending is alot diff. than when it does happen, and that the hubby is not wanting to come back, most likely makes you feel even worse...when he was the one who cheated years ago!! keep remembering that...you are too good for this man who cannot commit to a marriage. Keep posting here & know you have lotsa support....Camer

September 14, 2005
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You had the strength to endure the pain of his extra marital affairs - AFFAIRS with an "S". OF COURSE you have the strength to be without him! You will be living WITHOUT the feeling of distrust, WITHOUT the feeling of betrayal, and WITHOUT the feeling of wondering whether he is coming home to you or not. Rejoice in the fact that he will no longer be hurting you. The separation hurts - but that hurt will surely go away with some time. The hurt of living with someone who cheats on you will last as long as you remain with that person - it could be forever. I know people who have stayed in this situation, and I know people who have left. The people who have left have happier lives now - you have a chance at that. He will be doing you a favor by leaving - you'll soon realize that when your life starts to fall into place and you start making your life work for you - take control - it's a choice that you won't regret making. Hang in there honey, we'll help you get through this. Love - Shaney

September 14, 2005
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Lost, been there myself. I hung on to a 15 year marriage for dear life with my ex constantly cheating on me. I finally got to the point where I couldn't take it anymore and asked him to leave. He left the same day and didn't leave a sock behind! I freaked a few days later and asked him to come back. The kids weren't doing well, etc. He wouldn't come back. I was so depressed I wasn't eating. Dropped 30 pounds in two months.

I got through it though and today I am glad he chose to not come back! It hasn't been easy. I've made some stupid choices and there are days like today when I feel really really down. Would I trade today for when I was with him? Hell no!! It was a never ending battle with him. A struggle that was never going to end. At least now, there is a light at the end of the tunnel, I'm doing better financially and I DO have my days when I'm actually happy being single!

September 15, 2005
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Dear all, thank you so much for all the encouragements.... It really mean a lot to me 🙂

I have found this site when I first finds out about his cheating & all the support from here has provided me with so many insight. I cannot put into words how grateful I am & gratitudes towards you.....

Yes, I will move on in life & hope that as long as I can live in this world I will try to be a happy person.

I shall add all these encouragement in my blog & read it like a bible....

Thanks again & wish you all well in everything you do..

with loves,
lost soul....( looking to transform into a new soul )

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