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My father's Occupation
February 2, 2000
2:02 pm
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pinky
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My father is an unlicensed "professional". He didn't have any professional training on that area. (Sorry that I don't want to expose too much. ) Seriously speaking, he has already broken the law of my country and is illegal. But somehow, he has not been "discovered" and so can continue with it. He has been doing that for over 40 years to support my family for there are no other choices.

Since when I was a primary school kid, I hate people asking about my father's job because I felt very shameful to tell. For years, I tried escaping the issue so I concentrated on my studies. But I knew that I was very much worried about my father's occupation, I was afraid that he would make mistakes thus harming people's life, I was anxious that he would be sued by others …. I never tell people my father's occupation evenmy best friends, until one day I went to a counsellor.

Not long ago, someone wanted to report my father's case to the police and this really made me depressed and nervous. (luckily, this didn't happen!) Thus I went to the school counsellor, this was the first time I went to seek professional help. My counsellor helped me a lot in accepting my father's job and appreciating him. She also helped me to face my emotion etc …It did help a lot. It was about half a year ago. However, the same problem appears again now, I start escaping, feeling worried and shameful about my father's job. AGAIN!! I just don't know what should I do now.

February 3, 2000
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Pinky,

I don't know exactly what to say about this...only that this is your fathers issue...not yours. And if one day he does get into trouble because of it...this is the risk he took and it is not your responsibility to make it better. Even if he does get into trouble this should have no bearing whatsoever on you becoming a counselor. You and he are two seperate people...

You can not change your father...please let him go...when and if trouble ever comes to pass...just love him unconditionally and follow your dreams...that is what he wants for you...to be happy.

Karin

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